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  • Posted 05/22/2015 08:52:34 EDT

    Whoa, Meredith said it all. This guy doesn't understand about the blending that goes on in a relationship. It could start with liking the person, then loving the person, then adapting and mixing inter more »

  • Posted 05/21/2015 09:23:40 EDT

    Hmmm, waiting for someone better! That's a fine attitude to have with anyone. As though being human is a contest. Why do I have the feeling that you think of all people in those terms. Yes, let the po more »

  • Posted 05/20/2015 10:33:13 EDT

    Sounds to me like you don't want any girlfriend, just someone to bone and a bunch of female friends. ... And it sounds like you (as M picked up on) told the current about your ex in a way that said "h more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:29:23 EDT

    Maybe you are suffering from "I thought the world would be different" divorce anxiety. You had reasons for a divorce, and it sounds like you initiated it, but maybe it wasn't the magic pill to make yo more »

  • Posted 05/15/2015 10:59:44 EDT

    Ok, Lady, you need the California response!! Read some Louise Hay--i.e. no self criticism ever. love, love, love yourself. Stack the deck with affirmations and positive meditation and drop all this "I more »

  • Posted 05/14/2015 09:19:03 EDT

    Hello LW, Kevin sounds like a rare bird in these times. When you have a bit of life experience under your belt you come to see just how special these kinds of people are. Rather than seeing this in a more »

  • Posted 05/12/2015 10:34:54 EDT

    Not a man, but I do have the perspective of time. Having a decent sized rock and an emotional, heartfelt proposal from your husband is a great thing to have when/if times get tough. No, these things d more »

  • Posted 05/11/2015 09:57:59 EDT

    Doesn't sound like you have even filed for divorce. I would focus on that unless your long term goal is to pull some "shy, kind, sweet man" into a nasty divorce/custody drama. more »

  • Comment on: He Changed

    Posted 05/08/2015 11:08:23 EDT

    You're making him sound like a looney, which makes me wonder, since you did like him so much. How about an honest conversation rather than an ultimatum? If he gets defensive, bring the tension down so more »

  • Posted 05/07/2015 09:17:10 EDT

    Bridget, it may not have felt that way at the time, but you dodged a bullet! more »

  • Posted 05/07/2015 11:23:42 EDT

    Dear LW, this one is on you. You slept with and got pregnant by a married man. More drama does not absolve you from doing the right thing right now. Don't interfere in this marriage anymore. It's none more »

  • Posted 05/06/2015 10:43:14 EDT

    I believe that whatever we do (have arms length lovers, and super close male friends) we do it for a reason. Why TRY to discipline yourself to behave a way that won't be comfortable for you? You are c more »

  • Comment on: He Wants To Visit

    Posted 05/04/2015 10:49:03 EDT

    Do what really feels right in your heart. It may be to let him sleep on your couch, it may not. But, please, listen to yourself, not us. You have the answer. A long lost love can mean so many things. more »

  • Posted 05/04/2015 10:34:07 EDT

    Oh, Yeoman, this is hard to take. Two Star Trek deaths in short order. She was really good, but I think was only on the first season. May you boldly go, Janice-I mean Grace! You touched many here on e more »

  • Posted 05/01/2015 10:36:40 EDT

    Question, have those people who have talked about wanting an open relationship really had one? I mean one where their partner (not them) was sleeping with someone else. We all love polygamy as long as more »

  • Posted 04/30/2015 10:26:08 EDT

    "He needs another chance"???? That's mighty kind of her. She's lucky he's not doing target practice down at the local range. And as for you. Stick with her and her bs victim game and you will soon be more »

  • Comment on: I Squish

    Posted 04/29/2015 09:13:01 EDT

    Dear LW, something seems to make you avoid of sex and intimacy. Could it be a bad experience in the past and/or are you afraid of someone seeing you for who you really are? A true mate sees all of you more »

  • Comment on: He Gets Agitated

    Posted 04/28/2015 10:37:16 EDT

    LW, you have 2 examples in 1 year of someone acting really badly and actually in incident #2 you say he "expressed annoyance". That's not a terrible thing to do. I know that I have gotten together wit more »

  • Comment on: I Text My Ex

    Posted 04/27/2015 10:45:18 EDT

    My last ex got in touch with me via Linkedin the other day. I responded and we talked on the phone. He wanted to do lunch. I said that we need to be respectful of our current mates and actually don't more »

  • Comment on: We Stay In Hotels

    Posted 04/24/2015 09:40:24 EDT

    Hmmm. Not safe to be in a stranger's home. I guess his wife is a stranger to you and it wouldn't be safe for you to be there.

    He is hiding something--it doesn't matter what. more »

  • Posted 04/16/2015 10:26:31 EDT

    Well, hard as it is, stop snooping. People can always hide stuff, it's not worth it. Guess what? You can't control him, and you really can't control anybody. I was in a similar position and was ready more »

  • Posted 04/15/2015 09:51:06 EDT

    Dunno, but sharing this issue with allus strangers seems odd. What if he reads this and recognizes himself? (you should have given him a fake name). It just sounds odd to have love and sex considered more »

  • Posted 04/14/2015 10:24:51 EDT

    That, too. more »

  • Posted 04/14/2015 10:10:46 EDT

    Well, you make this having kids thing sound so warm and loving! And you paint your relationship as very loving. Not! Why not just love him and the situation as it is. No one put a gun to your head and more »

  • Posted 04/13/2015 04:29:56 EDT

    Well, LW, sex should be a stress reliever, not additional stress. How about forgetting what HE wants out of sex and making it about you. Enjoy it and see if you can get what YOU want to make it fun. E more »