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  • Comment on: Holiday Updates

    Posted 07/02/2015 09:50:38 EDT

    Wow! These made my day!! Good news is the best. Happy marriages to all.

  • Posted 07/01/2015 10:36:07 EDT

    You guys sound married! More commitment may change his behavior for the better or worse depending on his pathology. Maybe you should tell him what you told us strangers. After all, regardless, you two more »

  • Comment on: Attached To Mike

    Posted 06/30/2015 09:03:42 EDT

    Hmmm, running one life is hard enough. I'd focus on your own. You only reinforce Mike's hopelessness by deciding you are the only answer for his life. I'd put on a new pair of glasses and see Mike as more »

  • Posted 06/29/2015 09:49:06 EDT

    Well, one way to deal with controlling behavior (which is what his is) is to go off the reservation entirely. You can't control him, or the situation, so you could make your own new environment with n more »

  • Posted 06/26/2015 09:12:31 EDT

    You are making the rest of us feel bad, LW! You may have ruined a few days--and nights with this one. At least you have given us something to aspire to. more »

  • Comment on: Did I Overreact?

    Posted 06/25/2015 10:19:09 EDT

    My intuition says that he did something that you wouldn't approve of (like hitting up another woman at the cookout-and it didn't work out) and his freak out was part guilt, part anger at his obvious f more »

  • Comment on: Has He Moved On?

    Posted 06/24/2015 09:22:25 EDT

    Hello LW, I have discovered in my years as a woman that men are not like us. If you push them away they don't run back (like we do). What works for them on us (pushing us away makes us run towards the more »

  • Posted 06/18/2015 09:18:02 EDT

    Yes, I agree, about the free ho comment. You might find a male friend with no sex more rewarding than a man who takes this sexual level of intimacy for granted. This situation seems like it would be h more »

  • Posted 06/15/2015 10:18:56 EDT

    Thanks Bzzn for your gentleness. It's appreciated. In a 16 year marriage we recovered from the most horrendous cheat with the most thorough snooping that laid the former out in all its' horror. There more »

  • Posted 06/15/2015 09:40:20 EDT

    I am someone who bases my comments on my own experience and tries not to judge harshly. If that's being a moron, then I'll be a moron. more »

  • Posted 06/15/2015 09:12:35 EDT

    LW, why don't you try to contact him, rewind and get to a place of honesty about how you really feel about each other. The rest is just game playing and you can pretty much throw away the previous act more »

  • Posted 06/15/2015 09:10:02 EDT

    Mer is right on this. If your long term relationship is being assaulted, you do have a right to know. Infidelity is the larger crime, and why have to sit it in for years. If you pretty much know and t more »

  • Posted 06/12/2015 08:48:21 EDT

    FYI, Only one of the couple (say you) has to start with this genuine loving behavior. The other one is likely to jump on board once they see the benefit. more »

  • Posted 06/12/2015 08:42:50 EDT

    Well, you can use this relationship to learn from. After all, considering the history that both of you have you are both likely to repeat the mistakes of the past if you don't stop and change. Here's more »

  • Posted 06/10/2015 09:34:56 EDT

    Hey BFF, you know everything about her, right? You probably know that she is still single. If she is, then it's likely you she's waiting for, man. Follow your heart. I don't know about conversations, more »

  • Posted 06/09/2015 10:16:05 EDT

    Yes!! Don't people know yet that 60 is the new 30 and we are going to be living well into our 100's very soon. more »

  • Posted 06/09/2015 10:11:17 EDT

    She said they would live together if they lived in the same area. That sounds like love to me. more »

  • Posted 06/09/2015 10:09:52 EDT

    Well, if he lives in California or a place with palm trees and no snow then go for it! Being around kids is nice, but they have their own lives. And if it is a warm area, you will certainly see them i more »

  • Posted 06/08/2015 12:50:00 EDT

    Been there recently where your boyfriend is. Someone flirting with one's mate it a quick trip to crazy town. There is no reason to it. It hurts. I think you should have gone up to your boyfriend when more »

  • Posted 06/05/2015 11:03:46 EDT

    Oh, there are ways to reunite, to be sure. 3 years is a long time. Now he has you on the ropes, because he is the "decider". Everyone thinks getting internet dating advice is stupid, but I got this on more »

  • Posted 06/03/2015 09:06:00 EDT

    Hello LW, here in CA we see a connection between illness and attitude. It sounds like your identity may be wrapped up in being ill. It's just one part of you, like brown hair. How about identifying yo more »

  • Posted 06/02/2015 09:18:32 EDT

    LW, Can't love be organic? You are coming into summer. There will be plenty of opportunities to setting stakes in the ground-weekend trips, the 4th, vacation, barbecues with friends. Why do you need s more »

  • Posted 06/01/2015 10:04:38 EDT

    Oh, LW, I need to comment on your use of the word "mistake". As in he made one. Please, if you always treat him as his 2nd grade teacher, he'd be stupid not to cheat. The reason that snooping is wrong more »

  • Posted 06/01/2015 09:45:53 EDT

    Well, he's checking our phones (at least until midnight last night) more »

  • Posted 06/01/2015 09:41:05 EDT

    Oh, LW, I understand your pain in wanting to snoop. It's like having a box of cupcakes right next to you and not eating them. When you make the decision not to, though, it's much easier. If you equate more »