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  • Posted 07/29/2015 11:13:39 EDT

    If someone says, "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now," understand it as, "I do not want a relationship with you." People say it to be nice, especially when the reasons they might not want more »

  • Posted 07/29/2015 11:10:54 EDT

    My brother and sister-in-law have an 11 year age gap, and while some of our family members were a little confused and judgmental at first, most of us weren't, and no one is anymore. They're a fantasti more »

  • Posted 07/24/2015 07:17:18 EDT

    So, I'm a child of divorce. I think that the concept that women are nurturing and better at parenting is one that's based on stereotype, and that it's on the system to be aware of the stereotype and n more »

  • Posted 07/23/2015 04:06:12 EDT

    There's some serious biphobia at play, too. Your fiancé has chosen to marry you and spend his life with you. Your sex life is fine. Evidence to suggest he might be bi is pretty slim anyway, but even i more »

  • Posted 06/19/2015 02:02:19 EDT

    Yep. If the boyfriend can't set better boundaries and ensure that the letter writer isn't ostracized, then the letter writer should probably move on. This isn't a situation that's really workable fore more »

  • Posted 06/11/2015 02:30:31 EDT

    The comments are basically proving why these bathrooms are necessary, given the incredibly hateful and transphobic remarks. more »

  • Posted 06/09/2015 11:35:29 EDT

    I'm sorry that we haven't saved up enough for 20% of a downpayment, but we're too busy making no money at our mediocre jobs and paying most of our disposable income to pay off our student loans. But I more »

  • Posted 05/28/2015 11:36:52 EDT

    So, hey. Sometimes, we don't have the language to describe what happens to us. I didn't know that what happened to me when I was 14 was sexual assault because I was under the impression that sexual as more »

  • Posted 05/26/2015 01:26:58 EDT

    This isn't a sustainable situation. I think Meredith's advice is solid, and that depending on his reaction to that decision, you might want to reconsider the relationship. more »

  • Posted 05/23/2015 05:42:16 EDT

    The age difference here is pretty irrelevant. You were in a car accident, your mother was hospitalized, and your grandfather died ... and he spent that time evaluating you as a partner? I don't unders more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 02:09:39 EDT

    Honestly, I'm a little confused. You say that you're trying to date, but that there are men who don't seem to care that you're not officially divorced and they want to "jump right into dating." As opp more »

  • Posted 03/03/2015 04:48:53 EST

    I think you're coming up against a sunk cost fallacy, where you've already put so much time and effort into this relationship that you feel like it would be a waste to just drop it and move on. But it more »

  • Posted 02/16/2015 09:58:24 EST

    This is absolutely unacceptable. There was no additional snow today, and no reason why the Green Line isn't cleared above ground. more »

  • Posted 02/16/2015 09:58:21 EST

    This is absolutely unacceptable. There was no additional snow today, and no reason why the Green Line isn't cleared above ground. more »

  • Posted 02/15/2015 10:20:46 EST

    Uuuuuuuuugh. more »

  • Posted 02/05/2015 08:39:18 EST

    A little concerned that this wasn't already banned, but I guess better late than never? more »

  • Posted 02/05/2015 02:00:13 EST

    I agree with Meredith's advice. Especially the part about not generalizing about how this is just a "woman" thing. more »

  • Posted 02/03/2015 04:22:44 EST

    Staying for the kids and the comfortable home are not reasons to stay married. As a child of divorce, I can guarantee you, I'm happier with two divorced parents than two unhappily married parents. Sta more »

  • Posted 01/30/2015 01:15:28 EST

    Yeah, I think you're dealing with the sunk cost fallacy here, which is that since you've spent so much time and energy on this relationship already, you need to stay committed to it. I've seen this ha more »

  • Posted 01/27/2015 12:05:02 EST

    It's hard to explains the sort of people you want to avoid in your life, but Daniel is one of them. He says you're his best friend, but as you've pointed out, he doesn't even treat you like a close fr more »

  • Posted 12/11/2014 08:35:50 EST

    LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE please leave. This man is reprehensible. more »

  • Posted 12/11/2014 08:33:22 EST

    I wonder what this means in terms of Tufts and Boston University med schools. more »

  • Posted 12/10/2014 12:20:19 EST

    I think the LW sounds like they're massively downplaying their own role in all this, besides looking at the phone. It seems really unlikely that the girlfriend would be paying for an expensive vacatio more »

  • Posted 12/09/2014 05:12:12 EST

    I don't need a degree from Harvard to know that Ben Edelman is an entitled, classist piece of trash. more »

  • Posted 12/03/2014 02:09:05 EST

    When I went through a break-up in college, the worst mistake I made was pretending that I was okay when I wasn't. There's a lot of pressure to be cool about everything, and a lot of people treat break more »