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  • Posted 05/27/2015 12:42:02 EDT

    Yeah. This was the one I noticed: "the man I loved lied to me because he didn't want to hurt me"

    I'm sure that's why he lied...and not because it was just easier.

  • Posted 05/22/2015 11:38:39 EDT

    Yeah, if they've only been dating 6 months total, what's "very early"? All I know is that if someone I'd been dating a month wanted an talk about or status that lasted hours, I would be done with that more »

  • Posted 05/19/2015 09:38:34 EDT

    You had me at "tearfully stand outside your window holding a boombox." more »

  • Posted 05/19/2015 09:37:32 EDT

    I couldn't really follow this letter.

    But either stop obsessing over something that happened 2 years ago, or break up with him and move on. more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:17:07 EDT

    I think the problem is that you're very focused on dating. Friendship-first may be an ideal way to meet a romantic partner, but it won't really be friendship-first if you are only doing it to hit that more »

  • Comment on: He Changed

    Posted 05/08/2015 09:25:26 EDT

    Yes.... And there's a book called "Stop Walking on Eggshells" that I think will help you. (I know, this sounds like a joke, but it's a real book that sounds applicable to the LW's experience, even if more »

  • Comment on: He Changed

    Posted 05/08/2015 09:21:23 EDT

    Also, make sure the friend is someone who 100% is on your side... Sounds like this guy can turn on the charm when he needs to. Read the book "stop walking on eggshells". Seriously!! more »

  • Comment on: He Changed

    Posted 05/08/2015 09:17:01 EDT

    Kick him out... As safely as possible. Something sounds off about him, and I am worried for your safety if you finally tell him to get out. Have a friend move in with you and be there when you tell hi more »

  • Posted 05/06/2015 09:15:30 EDT

    Why is Tony even in your question? He said he wants to be just friends; you need to start taking him at his word and relegating him to less than a friend, unless you have no friends of your own alread more »

  • Comment on: She Wants More Sex

    Posted 05/05/2015 09:41:30 EDT

    I think that if you live together, you'll have sex even less than what you're having now. If his level of interest/activity has changed drastically, has he gone to see a doctor? Or does it seem like h more »

  • Comment on: He Wants To Visit

    Posted 05/04/2015 10:01:17 EDT

    You're spending way too much time thinking about things that aren't happening. more »

  • Posted 05/01/2015 09:24:52 EDT

    If they tell you, "I want an open relationship," you can say, "I'm at a point in life where I don't know what I want. I just want to see where this goes." ---------------------------------------- Or y more »

  • Posted 04/30/2015 09:07:28 EDT

    "As a single man, I have long said that I didn't want to date someone with children" Really? This is where your standards are, and not, perhaps, to staying away from a married woman who doesn't want t more »

  • Comment on: I Squish

    Posted 04/29/2015 09:33:55 EDT

    Please don't ever use the phrase "squishing" again. Also, this whole letter was about...nothing. Meredith answered your real question - you're looking for a real partner. So go find one and stop squis more »

  • Posted 04/21/2015 09:38:19 EDT

    But he's HANDSOME!!! more »

  • Posted 04/21/2015 09:36:48 EDT

    I'm not really sure why it's relevant that you're 42 and handsome...but whatever. Given that your first description of Ms. Dream Girl was all about her appearance, I'm going to say that you can find s more »

  • Posted 04/16/2015 09:39:59 EDT

    Apparently a lot of us had the same thought, at the same time... more »

  • Posted 04/16/2015 09:38:36 EDT

    "I keep looking for proof positive of extracurricular activities so I can end it." Why don't you just end it instead? You don't need to find proof - you already don't trust him, so it is irrelevant wh more »

  • Posted 04/14/2015 09:49:11 EDT

    I think you should have left 2 years ago when he "never answered the question." That's pretty much your answer right there. There isn't anything wrong with you wanting kids or with him not wanting kid more »

  • Posted 04/10/2015 08:47:48 EDT

    Uh, what does your therapist say about your wife's plans? Because if you both have been honest with the therapist and the therapist is on board with the affair, you need not only a therapist for yours more »

  • Comment on: Where Do We Stand?

    Posted 04/08/2015 10:25:23 EDT

    THE ANNOTATED VERSION My partner and I are in our early 30s, have been together for nearly four years, and have lived together for three. Everything is awesome - we're very much in love, get along ver more »

  • Posted 04/07/2015 09:33:37 EDT

    He's played by Keanu Reeves in the 90s version of this movie. more »

  • Posted 04/07/2015 09:26:39 EDT

    OK, please don't say, "I have feelings for you and want to know if you're open to making out." How about, "Do you want to go on a date with me some time?" Or wait until you're both in your 40s, when y more »

  • Posted 04/06/2015 09:06:19 EDT

    Look for a new job. This is trouble, and from the tone of your letter, I'm afraid nothing we say is going to get through to you.

    Let me put it another way. Best case scenario? Still ends badly. more »

  • Comment on: She Takes Breaks

    Posted 04/03/2015 09:53:49 EDT

    Okay, so now I've cracked the code. Hit enter twice, see two spaces on the screen = new paragraph., I salute your technical ingenuity! more »