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  • Posted 10/31/2013 12:13:34 EDT

    My 2 cents:  I was dating a jerk when I was 37.  I met my husband when I was 40 and we married when I was 42.  I'm 51 now and so happy I didn't make the mistake of staying with the jerk!  Looking back more »

  • Posted 10/11/2011 10:10:04 EDT

    If "it might be a little bit awkward", don't bring it up. It's old news and had nothing to do with you, anyway. While a lot of commenters are saying you should be able to discuss anything if you have more »

  • Posted 09/28/2011 12:38:02 EDT

    Relax and enjoy the day!  The best advice I got was to really try to pay attention to what was going on so I could remember it.  You don't want to get so caught up in the little things that you don't more »

  • Posted 09/15/2011 06:19:08 EDT

    Some people have such inflated opinions of themselves that anything short of genuflection truly hurts their feelings.

    This was one of the best Miss Conduct lines, ever. more »

  • Posted 08/29/2011 11:57:34 EDT

    Is there anyone who can help you make these calls like a family member or a member of your wedding party?  It can feel rude as the bride to have to make these calls, but someone else may be able to be more »

  • Posted 05/17/2011 09:23:42 EDT

    The husband sounds bipolar.  Maybe he's abusive.  At the very least, they are having marital problems and you should stay out of it, other than to provide moral support to your cousin, and only if you more »

  • Posted 05/07/2011 01:32:50 EDT

    Since she is your friend, why don't you just ask her what she means?  I think you should know what specifics you're agreeing to. Many years ago, I was asked to be an honorary bridesmaid in a friend's more »

  • Comment on: I fear the stats

    Posted 04/27/2011 12:18:39 EDT

    My Dad (not the most romantic guy, usually) told me I shouldn't marry someone just because they seemed like someone I could be happy with. He said I should marry someone I can't live without. This has more »

  • Posted 04/14/2011 02:59:13 EDT

    There is no assumed quid pro quo for inviting someone to be your bridesmaid.  You should ask people with whom you are close now.  There will always be people who will be unhappy about some aspect of h more »

  • Forum Post: STD vs Invitations

    Posted 04/14/2011 02:46:12 EDT

    If you will have a lot of guests coming in from out of town, I don't think 4 months in advance is too early to give hotel information.  If you already have the rooms blocked off, why not let people kn more »

  • Posted 04/04/2011 01:44:16 EDT

    LW, have I met you? You were talking to a friend of mine out in public at a coffee break at a large meeting. I walked over to say hi to my friend and mingle, and I got the most cruel and withering loo more »

  • Posted 03/22/2011 07:58:58 EDT

    I still have not gotten used to caller ID enough that I answer with the person's name or expect someone to answer with my name when I call. The only exception is when my husband's calling--I always sa more »

  • Posted 03/14/2011 11:18:50 EDT

    Tell her that you're really hoping she will be able to attend, and when does she think she'll feel comfortable leaving the baby for the girl's weekend? Then plan around her schedule. Maybe plan the we more »

  • Posted 02/22/2011 12:52:29 EST

    This is not an etiquette question. This is a local culture/common practice question. There is no right answer, just like there's no right answer to "when should you remove the lint at the laundromat, more »

  • Posted 02/08/2011 08:58:22 EST

    I second the idea of a recipe shower.  I got married for the first time in my early 40's and didn't need all the gifts.  One of my friends threw me a recipe shower and later put it all together in a b more »

  • Comment on: I want kids

    Posted 01/13/2011 01:23:23 EST

    As with all letter writers, I wish you had told us your age. I agree with Meredith and everyone else that you can't count on her changing her mind about this or anything else. You can't change people more »

  • Posted 01/12/2011 01:12:15 EST

    Best relationship(s) of your life - present and/or past. What is the shortest period of time you waited before it turned sexual? What is the longest period of time you both waited before taking that s more »

  • Posted 01/12/2011 11:00:57 EST

    2 cent--I'm in the camp of maybe she slept with him too soon, but mostly because I got the feeling that she was putting too much pressure on herself to sleep with guys before she felt ready, since she more »

  • Posted 01/12/2011 09:08:22 EST

    LW, I'm sorry that you got dumped by email after what seemed like such a wonderful weekend. I don't know how old you are or what your life experience has been, but why would you feel like you have "in more »

  • Posted 12/27/2010 11:12:10 EST

    Happy Snow Day to others like me who had an unexpected day off from work! LW--Only you know if you fit into the category of "once a cheater, always a cheater", or if you made a terrible mistake that y more »

  • Posted 12/23/2010 04:00:20 EST

    "wrought with heartache"?? This guy is all about the drama. more »

  • Posted 11/23/2010 12:33:04 EST

    You say you "applaud" his idea to apply to medical school, but do you know what that really means? Does he? Between medical school and residency, the training is at least 7 years and sometimes 12 or m more »

  • Posted 08/26/2010 01:07:00 EDT

    As I reread your letter, this jumped out at me--"During these two years, he had made occasional references that there was something in his past that he had done and was not proud of, but I never pursu more »

  • Posted 08/26/2010 11:27:19 EDT

    If you're afraid to ask more or if he is not 100% forthcoming with details, or if you "really don't want to hear any more" then the relationship is over. If you ask all the questions you can think of more »

  • Posted 08/14/2010 07:19:56 EDT

    I've loved her since she was in the miniseries, Tales of the City, from the novels by Armistead Maupin, which was an ensemble cast, although she did play the main character. more »