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  • Posted 11/17/2010 10:12:21 EST

    I'm suprised at some of the regular comments villifying this guy. Nothing is that black and white! But I haven't read everything. I liked Rico's comment to cut the guy some slack. People lie to protec more »

  • Posted 11/09/2010 11:18:05 EST

    I wasn't really sure what to say when I saw this letter because I was as confused as you say you were about why he reacted so. I just don't know. But I liked Anecdotal's perspective a lot. Kind of lik more »

  • Posted 11/08/2010 11:03:14 EST

    I think you can be specific with your friends and say something like can we have a night "just us?" But compromise and have another evening that includes other couples. more »

  • Posted 11/05/2010 12:25:54 EDT

    IT IS WORKING! more »

  • Posted 11/05/2010 12:21:16 EDT

    I'm scared. more »

  • Posted 11/05/2010 12:08:41 EDT

    I can't either JazzyJill. I also don't like donuts. more »

  • Posted 11/04/2010 05:23:15 EDT

    Nevermind. You're right. I shouldn't harp on this. I'm done. Good luck. more »

  • Posted 11/04/2010 04:31:55 EDT

    Jeepers, I tried to address you "private, but I can't anymore, I don't know why. I erased the message in forum. Imagine you were me, and you got the message you sent me. How would you feel? I have don more »

  • Posted 11/03/2010 02:53:33 EDT

    Oh, justcat! You beat me to it! more »

  • Posted 11/03/2010 02:52:59 EDT

    Why are all dumb blonde jokes one liners?
    So men can understand them. more »

  • Posted 11/03/2010 02:12:43 EDT

    Pita people McRob? Is that what they are calling the Greeks now? I kid. I think you mean PETA. Will, I hear you. I guess I've learned today that ultimatums work for some people in some situations. Tho more »

  • Posted 11/03/2010 12:55:02 EDT

    An ultimatum worked for me. I don't know how people can just dismiss that as a possible way to get a person to quit. What doesn't work is an empty altimatum. Giving an addict consequences is important more »

  • Posted 11/03/2010 11:32:30 EDT

    My advice is to consider the ultimatum as a way to motivate him to quit smoking. What has she got to lose? more »

  • Posted 11/03/2010 09:56:19 EDT

    The best way to get someone to quit is to throw the ultimatum down. I know this first hand. Tell him you won't marry him and ten to one he'll make an effort. May not work the first, second or third ti more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:35:49 EDT

    Maybe we could call it like comparing pork chops to applesauce. Not at all the same, but they go together real well. more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:24:19 EDT

    You're totally right, Jeepers, but I still don't think one is less important or less valid than the other. If this roles were reversed, my advise would be the same: therapy. more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:22:28 EDT

    I assumed from the letter writers description of kissing him goodbye and telling him she loves him in the morning as she was either stay at home or worked part time, though she could just as easily be more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:17:58 EDT

    I like that you posted what you said KnowYourRole. Don't agree, but I love hearing what you have to say from a presumably male perspective. It adds color and debate and is clearly heartfelt. more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:15:55 EDT

    Understood Jeepers, but I am sure men can suffer depression in conjunction with the birth of a child as well as Perhaps calling it post-partum is the wrong word. I think JAMA calls it postnatal. more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:13:46 EDT

    My brother became very depressed after the birth of his third child. It was overwhelming. He was not prepared for a third child and neither was she, but neither considered termination an option. He to more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:05:37 EDT

    I disagree, Jeepers07. 100 years ago no one consider postpartum. Maybe science is a bit behind on men's physical, mental and emotional reactions to fathering a child. It can't be moot if it's an estab more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:03:21 EDT

    I think that's funny, Tub. Ikea. Nonetheless, researchers are examining it clinically very closely. I for one believe that if you are prone to depression, the birth of a child can trigger the same ove more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 04:00:07 EDT

    I posted a number of links earlier in the day and raised the issue of postpartum depression. It was generally not considered. Here's is the abstract from the Journal of the American Medical Associatio more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 02:41:03 EDT

    I agree that random oral sex can never hurt a relationship. So as long as both parties are getting turns. As far as tightening up the rump and wearing lingerie, KnowYourRole, would you settle for a pu more »

  • Posted 11/01/2010 01:47:15 EDT

    Second hand smoke is unhealthy, but to a lesser degree in your situation because she's not smoking in your apartment. You're getting the smell of the burning plant and paper, but you're hardly breathi more »