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  • Posted 05/22/2015 08:58:55 EDT

    You know you are wasting your time and you are writing to us for permission to abandon ship because you want to make sure being alone again is worth it. I'm guessing you can probably do better than a more »

  • Posted 05/21/2015 09:23:34 EDT

    I have some random thoughts/questions, but basically this isnt fair to her. 1. What are your attachment issues, because it sure seems like you have some? Its not impossible that you didnt find someone more »

  • Posted 05/20/2015 09:11:49 EDT

    There doesnt seem to be any alternative. She has made herself clear and so have you. Sounds like its over, Johnny. more »

  • Posted 05/19/2015 09:27:57 EDT

    This will never work because you dont trust him (for some pretty good reasons) and you have an anxious attachment style, which probably makes him want to try and hide the truth for fear that you'll fr more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:14:09 EDT

    I dont get it. If they dont care about your pending divorce and they want to date you, its a red flag for you. If they do care and they dont want to date you, then you are interested in being friends. more »

  • Posted 05/14/2015 09:25:21 EDT

    Where there's a will, there's a way, Corny. Not to say he's bad for not wanting to leave, just that caregivers can get stuck in their role to their detriment and not want to break from it rather easil more »

  • Posted 05/14/2015 09:09:54 EDT

    There is nothing wrong or selfish about the fact that this is not working for you. Its hard to deal with that when you are only 6 months in and this is supposed to be the time that you are infatuated more »

  • Posted 05/13/2015 09:04:33 EDT

    This is easy. Your marriage never stood a chance because you married someone that isnt a good match for you and you are wondering "what if" because of that. You also put your own needs and unresolved more »

  • Posted 05/12/2015 09:27:28 EDT

    Marriage is about compromising, respect, trust, etc., etc. You are telling us that you have and appreciate having an egalitarian relationship (they tend to be the most successful). I dont think there more »

  • Posted 05/11/2015 09:26:10 EDT

    Also, do you at least now see that the fact that you had a crush on this man while you were engaged wasnt a good sign for your upcoming marriage? I think given that you might be jumping into dating a more »

  • Posted 05/11/2015 09:19:30 EDT

    After the statement that he was, "busy for the next little bit and that he looked forward to catching up again more soon," is the perfect place to put the ball in his court and say, "great, let me kno more »

  • Comment on: He Changed

    Posted 05/08/2015 12:20:45 EDT

    This relationship moved way to fast and you let him charm his way right past your defenses. While you've been together only 9 months, you live together and you are acting like an unhappily married cou more »

  • Posted 05/07/2015 09:11:43 EDT

    "Do I wait it out and see if Bill really changes? Or do I get back to moving on? " Your asking us if you should wait it out and see if the guy who knocked you up and abandoned you while you were out o more »

  • Posted 05/06/2015 09:20:28 EDT

    You cant combine 2 guys to get all of your needs fullfilled. That wont work long-term and it will be very messy, so its good you are questioning it now. You said that you and Arthur agreed that there more »

  • Comment on: He Wants To Visit

    Posted 05/04/2015 09:32:18 EDT

    You are stuck on a relationship that you had for one year 10 years ago. Are you aware of the average lifespan of humans? more »

  • Posted 05/01/2015 08:57:34 EDT

    I dont think you are unrealistic to want a monogamous relationship. I agree that part of the problem might simply be your age and your gender and that things may change for you in the next 5 years. Ma more »

  • Posted 04/30/2015 09:51:54 EDT

    Bottom line: Just about everyone is afraid of loneliness and some are so afraid that they'd rather stay in a hopeless situation. more »

  • Posted 04/30/2015 09:40:22 EDT

    "As for me, I'm losing my mind." This is not typically what people in a happy and healthy relationship say on a day to day basis. Look at it this way: unless you were more than losing your mind before more »

  • Comment on: I Text My Ex

    Posted 04/27/2015 08:52:49 EDT

    Its certainly possible to be friends with an ex without the current GF being just might not be possible for you with your current GF. There is no right or wrong on this topic, only more »

  • Comment on: We Stay In Hotels

    Posted 04/24/2015 09:07:29 EDT

    Why are you meeting strangers online and traveling to other cities to sleep with them in hotels? more »

  • Comment on: We Stay In Hotels

    Posted 04/24/2015 09:04:25 EDT

    Oh come on. Really? more »

  • Posted 04/23/2015 08:36:41 EDT

    I agree he's being kind of an insecure baby about it. Maybe this is an opportunity right off the bat to see how you will handle conflict together or maybe its a sign that he's a wuss. Who knows? The r more »

  • Posted 04/22/2015 09:14:14 EDT

    Not to oversimplify this, but if you are unsure, then just wait it out a bit longer and see how this goes. She may be testing you to see if you are going to stick around now that she's shown you her i more »

  • Posted 04/21/2015 09:22:43 EDT

    I would tell her that you think her neck is really pretty and see what happens. You've got nothing to lose. more »

  • Posted 04/09/2015 09:31:57 EDT

    I dont know how much to make of this, but you tell us that you've found yourselves helping each other recently in different areas, but you dont mention one thing he's helped you with. Seems like you'v more »