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  • Posted 09/24/2013 10:16:25 EDT

    Even if he were actually in the divorce process, the one, practical piece of advice is "never, ever be the first relationship after a divorce."  Zero chance of its going the distance.  So either way, more »

  • Posted 09/24/2013 10:05:23 EDT

    Well, you're going to hear from a lot of people.  Put your big girl pants on, because it won't be pretty. I'll let other people deal with the morals here.  From a purely practical point of view, this more »

  • Posted 07/30/2013 02:45:49 EDT

    As you read this, please know that it comes from a place of compassion.  I realize that when you wrote, what you wanted was one thing:  advice on talking with the best man.  And I cannot go there.  I more »

  • Posted 05/31/2013 09:11:24 EDT

    Mer is right on today.  Don't move in.  Take it slow as though it's a new relationship.  And bolt if he starts cheating or getting skittish.  Good luck.

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  • Posted 05/24/2013 09:45:38 EDT

    Do not tell your husband.  The only purpose for doing so is to asuage your guilt.  It won't add anything of value to your already troubled relationship and will only cause more anger.  Confess to a th more »

  • Comment on: Play me some music

    Posted 05/10/2013 12:17:48 EDT

    I'm sending you heart felt condolences.  I'm old enough to have lost my own parents, plus those of ex-Mr. Whazup and current Dr. Whazup.  I loved all 6 of them, and the grieving is hard.  You'll find more »

  • Posted 05/09/2013 08:50:42 EDT

    Merideth, I'm hoping your mom gets well, and soon. To the letter writer, no, you're not unreasonable.  You're right that things will never be the same with you and BF, even if he comes back with longi more »

  • Posted 04/23/2013 09:40:44 EDT

    She did what was right for her.  And you did what was right for you.  Don't second guess yourself.  And find another gym.

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  • Posted 04/11/2013 10:03:06 EDT

    Prenup.  My brother in law, a doctor with a thriving practice in a joint property state, did the same thing, although the new woman didn't have children.  He would not listen to anyone advising him to more »

  • Posted 04/04/2013 07:38:44 EDT

    "treats me like gold. He's thoughtful, responsible, and caring"  Lots of men are like that, but that doesn't mean you have chemistry with them.   "Is it possible that one single relationship cannot pr more »

  • Posted 03/30/2013 09:22:17 EDT

    Jesus would come in a form that would have relevance for today.  And he would still tick a lot of people off.  His message of love and humility would draw in some and provoke rancor in others.  His wa more »

  • Posted 03/28/2013 09:34:58 EDT

    Don't get a little action on the side.  It's NEVER helpful to a relationship.  Clean up your own house before you go looking for another.  I suspect that saying that you want more intimacy won't autom more »

  • Posted 03/22/2013 09:24:21 EDT

    PPD can last that long.

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  • Posted 03/22/2013 09:22:39 EDT

    No.  This is a real, pregnancy related disorder and can be treated.  You are showing your lack of knowledge about it.

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  • Posted 03/22/2013 09:20:08 EDT

    Post Partum Depression.  It's a medical issue and won't respond to kicks in the bum.  Get her to see her doctor.

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  • Comment on: I read his texts

    Posted 03/12/2013 10:03:37 EDT

    Whoa!  Now THAT'S a story!  Glad she's you're ex.

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  • Comment on: I read his texts

    Posted 03/12/2013 09:51:37 EDT

    If you don't trust him, you don't trust him.  Maybe it's "your issue", but it's still a lack of trust.  This is definitely a therapy issue, and there will be no progress until you've worked on YOU.  T more »

  • Posted 03/08/2013 09:22:58 EST

    The age difference matters when you're young and it matters when you are past middle age, and health/aging factors become more pronounced.  You both should consider that.  But during most of your adul more »

  • Posted 02/11/2013 01:14:40 EST

    Do NOT respond.  *Change your email* and let this one go.  What you're looking for is validation that you are a good and decent person....which is probably true.  But you can't make sense with madness more »

  • Posted 02/06/2013 09:22:54 EST

    You're still young, no matter what you think now.  So many changes happen before you're 30, and this is just one of them.  It's why a lot of "high school sweetheart" relationships break open--there ar more »

  • Posted 01/15/2013 09:44:54 EST

    Thirty years ago I met a man with whom we had amazing chemistry.  I lived in Boston.  He lived 2 time zones away in the midwest.  For 3+ years we wrote long letters and had long phone calls--this was more »

  • Posted 12/26/2012 09:18:27 EST

    Uh-uh. Reverse order. Your should break off the affair and then find a new job. You're not going to be getting support here. more »

  • Posted 12/26/2012 09:18:26 EST

    Uh-uh. Reverse order. Your should break off the affair and then find a new job. You're not going to be getting support here. more »

  • Posted 12/26/2012 09:18:10 EST

    Uh-uh. Reverse order. Your should break off the affair and then find a new job. You're not going to be getting support here. more »

  • Posted 12/09/2012 06:11:13 EST

    Tfefio, "the stupidest president in history gets re-elected by the stupidest US citizens in US history."  George W.  Need I say more??? 

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