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  • Comment on: He Wants Her To Be More Active

    Posted 05/22/2015 09:37:01 EDT

    LW, I think you should listen to yourself -- the answer is clear. You said in your letter that you're in a "critical environment," that your boyfriend has "complaints" about you and wants you to chang more »

  • Comment on: He Wants Her To Be More Active

    Posted 05/22/2015 09:30:40 EDT

    He decided to evaluate you during what sounds like a stressful, tragic time in your life? And his evaluation was that you're not good enough for him?

    Why do you want to stay?

    You can do better. more »

  • Comment on: Settling For Good Enough

    Posted 05/21/2015 09:12:30 EDT

    If you think you can handle the ups and downs of marriage and child-rearing with someone who is just OK, you're crazy. You need someone with whom you really want to have those experiences, because lif more »

  • Comment on: Settling For Good Enough

    Posted 05/21/2015 09:11:09 EDT

    Your girlfriend deserves someone who thinks she is amazing, not someone who will do because no one better came along by a made-up deadline. more »

  • Comment on: She Wants Me To Drop My Ex

    Posted 05/20/2015 09:19:09 EDT

    I had a relationship with someone who insisted I cut off contact with friends who were exes. Turned into just one in a long string of efforts to control me. Whether or not that is what is going on her more »

  • Comment on: He Lied About Another Woman

    Posted 05/19/2015 09:09:35 EDT

    Also, if you have panic attacks that cause you to behave like a teenager (dumping someone via text), you need to make sure you're getting help for that. That is not long-term relationship behavior. more »

  • Comment on: He Lied About Another Woman

    Posted 05/19/2015 09:08:14 EDT

    So he went on a couples camping trip without you, with some other woman? That sounds odd. Why didn't he tell you this was occurring at the time? At the very least, he has a different idea of what he i more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:07:40 EDT

    She doesn't specify what kind of struggle was involved. more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:06:36 EDT

    I don't understand her anxiety about this, given that it takes maybe 6 months to a year for a divorce to be finalized if it's not messy. What is the rush??? more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:05:02 EDT

    Maybe the guys who don't want to date you because of your legal status are picking up on your own ambivalence about dating before the divorce is final. more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 09:03:53 EDT

    Of course it's not a bad thing. Just a rare thing -- that it's truly platonic and not about hoping for something more on one side or other of the friendship. more »

  • Comment on: Friendship First?

    Posted 05/18/2015 08:59:45 EDT

    You sound conflicted. Your avoidance of men willing to date you (when you say you're ready to date) reminds me of the saying, "I refuse to belong to any club that would have me as a member." Stop over more »

  • Comment on: Online Dating Rejection

    Posted 05/15/2015 04:52:13 EDT

    Some suggestions: 1. See a therapist and sort out WTH you were thinking for taking a decade break from dating or relationships. That was a huge overreaction, and you can't assume you're fine now and r more »

  • Comment on: Married and Thinking About Her Ex

    Posted 05/13/2015 10:14:36 EDT

    Wow, this headline was really misleading.

    How about: "Cheated on My Husband: Should I Stay or Should I Go?"

    I feel sorry for your husband. more »

  • Comment on: Should She Ask Him Out Again?

    Posted 05/11/2015 09:05:01 EDT

    Have that third dinner, but be prepared that telling him you're separated will lead to questions -- such as, are you getting divorced? If you're not sure about the answer to that question, slow down. more »

  • Comment on: I Squish

    Posted 04/29/2015 08:53:20 EDT

    I admire you for taking her letter so seriously and offering real advice. You are more patient than I am feeling this morning. more »

  • Comment on: I Squish

    Posted 04/29/2015 08:52:27 EDT

    I admit it, I thought "squishing" was some new slang for a topic that I expected to be For Adults Only.

    Had no idea this letter was actually going to be for the high school set. more »

  • Comment on: He Gets Agitated

    Posted 04/28/2015 09:58:16 EDT

    You need to leave.

    For whatever reason, he is a ticking time bomb. He lashes out at you at slight provocations. He is manipulative about his feelings. Why try to make this work? You can do better. more »

  • Comment on: I Text My Ex

    Posted 04/27/2015 08:33:37 EDT

    You sound like you are still hung up on your ex.

    Maybe you should stop pretending to be friends with the ex and focus on your current gf. more »

  • Comment on: Should Friends Take Sides in a Breakup? - Love Letters - Boston.com

    Posted 02/07/2015 10:38:09 EST

    Mere's advice is solid. To the producers of the video: please lose the "whimsical" music that implies there is something comical happening. If you're going to use music, use something that doesn't und more »

  • Comment on: Dating a musician

    Posted 05/08/2014 08:51:22 EDT

    "Date the person who she is now, not the person that you'll hope she'll be. "

    I wish I could "like" this more than once. Excellent advice. more »

  • Comment on: Dating a musician

    Posted 05/08/2014 08:46:16 EDT

    "Can I expect her to eventually mature and put a reasonable level of effort that would align closer to mine?" Her level of effort doesn't necessarily have anything to do with her maturity. This may ju more »

  • Comment on: Happy Thanksgiving

    Posted 11/28/2013 11:39:45 EST

    The letter (and your response) which introduced the idea of "grilled cheese" as a sexual metaphor. 

    more »

  • Comment on: His mother is sick

    Posted 09/27/2013 03:58:27 EDT

      LW, I think you should talk to your husband about being a team, not a leader and a follower. Emphasize that teamwork is essential for you two to get through this stressful time as calmly as possible more »

  • Comment on: Dating a stoner

    Posted 09/19/2013 04:21:49 EDT

    I feel like I stumbled onto the Ask Beth column. That said, LW, you should break up with this guy. Find someone you don't feel the need to change. Find someone who you delight in and who delights in y more »

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