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  • Posted 10/06/2015 09:22:48 EDT

    Compromise is the key to successful long term relationships. You should start your discussion with that statement, and see if the two of you can work one on out on this issue. Clearly constant social more »

  • Posted 09/25/2015 12:39:50 EDT

    It appears your professional life dominates your thinking, actions, emotions and life. For some people, this is the only way to find fulfillment, but it does put a lot of pressure on their partners. F more »

  • Posted 09/23/2015 09:50:10 EDT

    If only we could all stay undergrads forever. FOREVAH! Was dating ever easier or more fun? Having adult responsibilities just makes things so much harder. You are obsessing about a time and place you more »

  • Posted 09/18/2015 09:59:09 EDT

    Simply: you are a driver, he is passenger. Perfect match until he decides he does not want to go anywhere. more »

  • Posted 09/18/2015 09:38:39 EDT

    You should move on. If he is as laid back as you say, he started out thinking, "This is great, she has plans, she gets things done, I am doing so much stuff I would not do on my own." But then it turn more »

  • Posted 08/25/2015 04:21:33 EDT

    Sounds like he enjoys sex with the "Ex," while the two of you engage in a romantic shadow dance like a couple of middle schoolers. Between the two relationships, he has you for an idealized romance wi more »

  • Posted 08/11/2015 09:32:35 EDT

    There is something wrong with her. Let it go. Really? Why didn't she just say no to a second date? That would have been easier. Don't waste time on why - just accept that she is not worth pursuing and more »

  • Posted 07/27/2015 09:46:18 EDT

    Dear Mere, I am unbelievably selfish and self-involved. I do not believe I should be denied anything nor should I have to earn it. It JUST SHOULD BE GIVEN TO ME. Now my lunkhead of a husband who has b more »

  • Posted 07/27/2015 09:20:20 EDT

    I think there is a missing piece here, but there is a clue. She had a bad reaction when he asked her to consider finding a job. From that, I have to believe there was a bad moment when she said she wa more »

  • Posted 07/23/2015 09:09:37 EDT

    It is unlikely you can construct a healthy relationship with someone who is in a dysfunctional one as well. You might be wise to tell him he needs to end things with Michael once and for all. Then he more »

  • Posted 07/22/2015 10:46:22 EDT

    Take him to the local gay bar. If all the patrons greet him with a loud, "Norm!" you have your answer. more »

  • Posted 07/22/2015 09:19:54 EDT

    Doesn't sound like you two are bound by traditional values (since you live together) that would make him want to hide his sexuality. Maybe you are doubting your desire to marry him and are latching on more »

  • Posted 07/22/2015 09:19:52 EDT

    Doesn't sound like you two are bound by traditional values (since you live together) that would make him want to hide his sexuality. Maybe you are doubting your desire to marry him and are latching on more »

  • Posted 07/21/2015 09:40:10 EDT

    "I am dating you because Jen won't." "Her loss, my gain." "That's why I love you. Also, you are so understanding that we still have lunch and dinner together, text daily and mark the holidays, because more »

  • Posted 07/21/2015 09:22:39 EDT

    Jen likes the attention. Why not? What does John like? Is it giving the attention? Hmmm, that does not seem plausible because he could give that attention to you. Or does John like thinking he still h more »

  • Comment on: I'm the bad guy

    Posted 07/20/2015 09:41:49 EDT

    I wonder what the rescues were like. I am imagining her dangling him off the balcony by his feet, "You wanna die dumb-ass? Forget those pills! I will just drop you on your head from this building - sp more »

  • Comment on: I'm the bad guy

    Posted 07/20/2015 09:15:48 EDT

    It is really important that you continue to track all of his activities. Having friends who follow his posts on social media and tell you what he is doing is not enough. I really think you need to fin more »

  • Posted 07/17/2015 10:09:35 EDT

    This is one of those complicated, convoluted situations where essentially you gave him the opportunity to be a weasel. If you had never engaged with him, you never would have found out that he was jus more »

  • Posted 07/16/2015 02:59:03 EDT

    I think he really had not matured that much. It is more like he was more attentive to you, he wanted your attention and knew he needed to modify his act to get it. You took that as an indication that more »

  • Posted 07/15/2015 01:21:36 EDT

    I get it, you are new to this, you see someone who you think is really interesting and she shows interest, so your mind races forward and this is it, dating problems solved, she is the one you will ha more »

  • Posted 07/14/2015 09:15:52 EDT

    This is why test drives are so important. more »

  • Posted 07/13/2015 09:46:24 EDT

    Some people are experiential learners, I would say you are definitely not one of those. You continue to have the same experience over and over again that you don't like. Grab a self-help book, or thre more »

  • Comment on: Is She Into Me?

    Posted 07/10/2015 09:05:19 EDT

    To quote a Nike ad, "Tiger, what have you learned?" And I am thinking, not much. You have the deadly combination of overthinking and under communicating. Seems like you want to date but don't know how more »

  • Posted 07/09/2015 09:21:24 EDT

    Minus the first six months of dating, you have spent 18 months waiting for him to integrate you into his life. For 18 months he has happily not integrated you into his life. You are caught up in the c more »

  • Comment on: Boyfriend Or Baby

    Posted 07/08/2015 10:12:10 EDT

    A cauldron of angst: what to do? If you dump Matthew, how long to do you have to find someone you would consider building a life with and is willing to have children. You have had approximately two de more »