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  • Posted 08/25/2015 10:39:44 EDT

    Disappointed in the letters lately.

  • Posted 08/21/2015 09:00:07 EDT

    How about acting like a grown-up?

    You think you feel awkward? What about how she feels? Put yourself into her shoes and think about how you'd want the new woman to act towards you.

  • Posted 08/19/2015 09:09:40 EDT

    Walk away and save yourself a world of hurt later. I was in this situation once, gave the guy another chance, and discovered later that he went from getting phone numbers from women just to prove to h more »

  • Posted 07/31/2015 09:23:38 EDT

    You know what you ought to do. Listen to your guts. Get your own place and wait. Don't rush major steps in a relationship because of finances. more »

  • Posted 07/30/2015 10:12:38 EDT

    I wonder if Steve is his real name, and she's counting on him to read this letter so she doesn't have to figure out how to start the I'm-dumping-you conversation? more »

  • Posted 07/30/2015 10:07:58 EDT

    Agreed. She should never have brought him along house-hunting; how could she imagine he wouldn't take that as a sign? more »

  • Posted 07/30/2015 10:05:32 EDT

    LW, a person's accomplishments don't tell you much about his character or how much you enjoy time together or how much you trust him and feel safe with him. What is it that makes you think Steve is no more »

  • Posted 07/30/2015 10:05:29 EDT

    LW, a person's accomplishments don't tell you much about his character or how much you enjoy time together or how much you trust him and feel safe with him. What is it that makes you think Steve is no more »

  • Posted 07/24/2015 10:13:26 EDT

    Meredith, can we have another letter today, please? more »

  • Posted 07/22/2015 10:16:35 EDT

    LW, you are worrying about his sexual orientation, when I think the real issues are: 1) you're concerned about long-term monogamy (because if he is bi, you think this means something about whether he more »

  • Posted 07/14/2015 09:19:51 EDT

    "Brace yourself for the most frustrating letter ever." "... I will never have a normal sex life...." Seriously, stop being so over-the-top. You've dated 3 guys with stamina problems. It's not the end more »

  • Posted 07/14/2015 09:14:05 EDT

    What's with the Justin Bieber quote??? Is this for comic relief? more »

  • Posted 07/14/2015 09:12:49 EDT

    Avoid making this mean something about you or seeing some sort of "curse" at work. Don't be dramatic.

    Keep looking. more »

  • Posted 07/14/2015 09:11:07 EDT

    Have any of these guys sought medical help? Seems very weird for such young guys to be having this problem. more »

  • Posted 05/29/2015 12:00:38 EDT

    Val, he is not calling it a day. He is creeped out enough to take the time and write for advice, so obviously this is not something he's shrugging off easily. I'm suggesting a couple of ways he can de more »

  • Posted 05/29/2015 11:58:53 EDT

    Guru, your advice to get a lawyer and threaten to sue seems more likely to make this a mountain than seeing a therapist privately to talk about how the situation makes you feel. (And I say this while more »

  • Posted 05/29/2015 11:42:49 EDT

    Why does someone who would secretly videotape another person and use that information against them "deserve" a "nice, simple life"??? more »

  • Posted 05/29/2015 11:41:40 EDT

    I imagine you feel violated, no matter what is on the tapes. Consider seeing a lawyer, to find out if you have cause to sue this person. You could feel better for having explored this option. You will more »

  • Posted 05/28/2015 03:00:46 EDT

    Your need to see people as good/bad is getting in the way of seeing that you two are not a good match. Be true to yourself. Find a guy who appreciates you exactly as you are -- and whom you appreciate more »

  • Posted 05/22/2015 09:37:01 EDT

    LW, I think you should listen to yourself -- the answer is clear. You said in your letter that you're in a "critical environment," that your boyfriend has "complaints" about you and wants you to chang more »

  • Posted 05/22/2015 09:30:40 EDT

    He decided to evaluate you during what sounds like a stressful, tragic time in your life? And his evaluation was that you're not good enough for him?

    Why do you want to stay?

    You can do better. more »

  • Posted 05/21/2015 09:12:30 EDT

    If you think you can handle the ups and downs of marriage and child-rearing with someone who is just OK, you're crazy. You need someone with whom you really want to have those experiences, because lif more »

  • Posted 05/21/2015 09:11:09 EDT

    Your girlfriend deserves someone who thinks she is amazing, not someone who will do because no one better came along by a made-up deadline. more »

  • Posted 05/20/2015 09:19:09 EDT

    I had a relationship with someone who insisted I cut off contact with friends who were exes. Turned into just one in a long string of efforts to control me. Whether or not that is what is going on her more »

  • Posted 05/19/2015 09:09:35 EDT

    Also, if you have panic attacks that cause you to behave like a teenager (dumping someone via text), you need to make sure you're getting help for that. That is not long-term relationship behavior. more »