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  • Comment on: He's a Crier

    Posted 04/21/2015 01:43:26 EDT

    Without sleep, the body/mind starts to lose the ability to emotionally regulate. Agree with your advice. She is not living in his world, nor can she understand it.

  • Posted 04/17/2015 12:20:29 EDT

    People can point out the obvious, which is that fast food work is not a career unless you get to a managerial position and maybe not even then. So while I can empathize with the man's problems, he obv more »

  • Posted 04/16/2015 11:39:30 EDT

    Married. more »

  • Posted 04/16/2015 11:31:46 EDT

    An STD phone call would probably take more than a minute. It was probably just a wrong number. The only reason she came to her conclusion was the complete lack of trust, so yeah send out the dump truc more »

  • Posted 04/15/2015 01:07:05 EDT

    Any guy who watches his 38 year old gf freeze her eggs is the biggest DB I can think of. He might as well be saying, "well, at least she'll get a chance at a kid after I waste her life." I've watched more »

  • Posted 04/15/2015 01:04:46 EDT

    Any guy who watches his 38 year old gf freeze her eggs is the biggest DB I can think of. He might as well be saying, "well, at least she'll get a chance at a kid after I waste her life." more »

  • Posted 04/15/2015 12:34:01 EDT

    I had questions about this guy being a one hit wonder myself. Doesn't round 2 take longer? And I disagree with your LAST sentence. Sex can get better with time for many. more »

  • Posted 04/13/2015 12:30:20 EDT

    Go out for a hike and do it in the woods; take a class together on tantric massage and listen to Sting the whole time. more »

  • Posted 04/13/2015 12:27:12 EDT

    I keep telling my husband that there must be such a thing as b*ll flicking and he says no. But there is every other filthy disgusting thing out there. There's got to be some masochists that are into i more »

  • Posted 03/26/2015 12:01:06 EDT

    I think she should try imagining living without him. If she doesn't shudder at it, and even hypothetically really miss him in her life, then she ain't with the right guy, even though he is so great. more »

  • Posted 03/23/2015 12:05:23 EDT

    This guy wants the attention, otherwise, he would have announced he wasn't single earlier. more »

  • Posted 03/19/2015 11:57:42 EDT

    I weigh myself every day or other day or so. It does cause me to freak out whenever the weight goes up, but I don't gain 5 or 10 pounds without realizing it either. more »

  • Comment on: Not Ready to Date?

    Posted 03/19/2015 11:44:15 EDT

    I think she is looking for validation that she is not wrong for being alone for 4 years. more »

  • Comment on: Not Ready to Date?

    Posted 03/19/2015 11:35:44 EDT

    Simply dating while being separated for 4 years (and are upfront)? Yes. Dating after leaving your husband of many years within months or within a year or so? No. more »

  • Posted 03/18/2015 11:39:38 EDT

    She could drag it on for years, which is what I have witnessed with my friends (and I fell victim to it too). Run for the hills! more »

  • Posted 03/12/2015 12:18:07 EDT

    Don't meet someone in a few years? Like she should think about throwing in the towel by 35? I like your advice but some people just don't meet the right person until later. It's not awesome fertility- more »

  • Posted 03/11/2015 12:05:38 EDT

    She is co-dependent with her friend, and thus cannot draw boundaries. LW likely needs to seek therapy to even see this. more »

  • Posted 03/10/2015 11:27:08 EDT

    I think the guy is grasping at straws as to what his options are...I get that her feelings may be hurt...but he's probably just in his own little world of "what about me...it isn't fair. I don't have more »

  • Posted 03/09/2015 11:47:42 EDT

    I HEARTILY disagree. This LW is the most mature I've seen in some time. Her standards may be too low, but I don't think she is immature. She's dealing with a bunch of rookie 20-somethings. Maybe she n more »

  • Posted 03/09/2015 11:45:48 EDT

    These are the very same people who "have baggage," ie. they never took responsibility for getting over/working through past difficult situations and then use it as an excuse for half--ssing a relation more »

  • Posted 03/03/2015 11:29:49 EST

    Oh, the old "he's separated but won't divorce." Likely, he is still paying the mortgage so his kids will have someplace to live and if he divorces her, he'll lose the only investment he probably has. more »

  • Posted 03/02/2015 12:08:48 EST

    Yes! He feels cheated on by a girl he barely knows who was making out at a bar and is comparing this to the situation where his fiance cheated on him. It was unfortunate timing and I get being hurt bu more »

  • Posted 02/19/2015 12:08:23 EST

    She's been with him a long time. Maybe it wasn't obvious until they were living together and worsened after children. Not everybody shacks up with somebody for years before marriage. She could have da more »

  • Posted 02/19/2015 12:01:22 EST

    There is a lengthy from BreninMA. Please, LW, find it. more »

  • Comment on: He Fears Change

    Posted 02/18/2015 03:25:57 EST

    All of her cons do not really matter in a relationship...if you've got big picture stuff down, whether or not your dude reads and debates is not that big of a deal. He made the change, now he is just more »