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  • Posted 03/26/2015 12:01:06 EDT

    I think she should try imagining living without him. If she doesn't shudder at it, and even hypothetically really miss him in her life, then she ain't with the right guy, even though he is so great.

  • Posted 03/23/2015 12:05:23 EDT

    This guy wants the attention, otherwise, he would have announced he wasn't single earlier.

  • Posted 03/19/2015 11:57:42 EDT

    I weigh myself every day or other day or so. It does cause me to freak out whenever the weight goes up, but I don't gain 5 or 10 pounds without realizing it either.

  • Comment on: Not Ready to Date?

    Posted 03/19/2015 11:44:15 EDT

    I think she is looking for validation that she is not wrong for being alone for 4 years.

  • Comment on: Not Ready to Date?

    Posted 03/19/2015 11:35:44 EDT

    Simply dating while being separated for 4 years (and are upfront)? Yes. Dating after leaving your husband of many years within months or within a year or so? No.

  • Posted 03/18/2015 11:39:38 EDT

    She could drag it on for years, which is what I have witnessed with my friends (and I fell victim to it too). Run for the hills!

  • Posted 03/12/2015 12:18:07 EDT

    Don't meet someone in a few years? Like she should think about throwing in the towel by 35? I like your advice but some people just don't meet the right person until later. It's not awesome fertility- more »

  • Posted 03/11/2015 12:05:38 EDT

    She is co-dependent with her friend, and thus cannot draw boundaries. LW likely needs to seek therapy to even see this. more »

  • Posted 03/10/2015 11:27:08 EDT

    I think the guy is grasping at straws as to what his options are...I get that her feelings may be hurt...but he's probably just in his own little world of "what about me...it isn't fair. I don't have more »

  • Posted 03/09/2015 11:47:42 EDT

    I HEARTILY disagree. This LW is the most mature I've seen in some time. Her standards may be too low, but I don't think she is immature. She's dealing with a bunch of rookie 20-somethings. Maybe she n more »

  • Posted 03/09/2015 11:45:48 EDT

    These are the very same people who "have baggage," ie. they never took responsibility for getting over/working through past difficult situations and then use it as an excuse for half--ssing a relation more »

  • Posted 03/03/2015 11:29:49 EST

    Oh, the old "he's separated but won't divorce." Likely, he is still paying the mortgage so his kids will have someplace to live and if he divorces her, he'll lose the only investment he probably has. more »

  • Posted 03/02/2015 12:08:48 EST

    Yes! He feels cheated on by a girl he barely knows who was making out at a bar and is comparing this to the situation where his fiance cheated on him. It was unfortunate timing and I get being hurt bu more »

  • Posted 02/19/2015 12:08:23 EST

    She's been with him a long time. Maybe it wasn't obvious until they were living together and worsened after children. Not everybody shacks up with somebody for years before marriage. She could have da more »

  • Posted 02/19/2015 12:01:22 EST

    There is a lengthy from BreninMA. Please, LW, find it. more »

  • Comment on: He Fears Change

    Posted 02/18/2015 03:25:57 EST

    All of her cons do not really matter in a relationship...if you've got big picture stuff down, whether or not your dude reads and debates is not that big of a deal. He made the change, now he is just more »

  • Comment on: He Fears Change

    Posted 02/18/2015 03:22:50 EST

    As a (maybe former??) liberal living with a republican who makes me watch Fox news, and goes on and on about "the libs"...I can tell you that while current events sicken me, I don't know what I am any more »

  • Comment on: He Fears Change

    Posted 02/18/2015 03:16:39 EST

    I think this is coming up now bc neither one of them have the network they used to have, so they are stuck with each other to grow in their new place. Her husband won't be "that guy"...eventually we a more »

  • Posted 02/12/2015 01:44:51 EST

    I think she's a heavy drinker. That's why she's fun for a Saturday night, etc. more »

  • Posted 02/12/2015 01:37:10 EST

    I'm thinking problem drinker or soon to be problem drinker... more »

  • Posted 02/12/2015 01:34:13 EST

    Jennybens, I believer you are 100% correct. Was thinking the exact same thing. Almost nobody goes on first dates for hours upon hours and then makes out passionately without there being booze involved more »

  • Posted 02/12/2015 01:28:07 EST

    I think the only thing she did wrong was the passionate kissing. I mean, she didn't give up the farm, but I'd save that...it confuses things. Would she be less confused if there was no kissing? Let th more »

  • Posted 02/06/2015 09:30:08 EST

    Text relationships are the lowest denominator of "relationships." I once had some thing with a guy where I would write me voluminous emails all day every day. I thought he was really interested and we more »

  • Posted 02/05/2015 12:46:06 EST

    There are other activities that don't cause pain...and he didn't mention her being in pain. more »

  • Posted 02/02/2015 01:12:41 EST

    Yeah, it is def wrong for one partner to express what their needs are... (isn't this what everybody beaches about on here? Like, "have you talked to him about it?) She has, and it hasn't changed, so s more »