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  • Posted 09/14/2012 09:29:45 EDT

    There is no magic age at which the ability not to cheat kicks in, so you just can't help it until you hit the big 3-0 or 9-8 or whatever. I'm sure he wouldn't accept "But baby I'm only 28!!!!!" as an more »

  • Posted 09/14/2012 09:20:00 EDT

    You are not treating your current girlfriend with respect, having erased her when you saw a chance for a cute beach flirtation. All week long, day in day out at night, you pretended good ol' faithful more »

  • Posted 09/14/2012 09:14:00 EDT

    I'm stuck on the weeklong bachelor party. Everyone has to take a week off work and cough up enough for a house rental and week's vacation? What happened to going out to a bar a night or two before the more »

  • Posted 06/26/2012 09:22:45 EDT

    1) His dad abandoned him, so he doesn't have a good model. 2) He has no interest in committing to you. You, as a person, even if the babymaking doesn't work out. 3) You think he has what it takes to b more »

  • Posted 06/26/2012 09:15:41 EDT

    Any time you find yourself explaining that your lover has issues, it's a good idea to append *with me*. e.g. "He has issues about committing *to me*. Things looking less Mr. Darcy/Heathcliffish, more more »

  • Posted 06/05/2012 09:20:44 EDT

    Did you meet playing World of Warcraft? Or is she on dating sites while not being ready to date anyone? If it's the latter, sounds like she's placeholdered you. Two months is plenty of patience. I'm a more »

  • Posted 05/25/2012 09:59:27 EDT

    *boggles* Wait, there's a parallel reality in here where, so long as your sex partner is the sort of person who talks in a self-deprecating way about when they were a kid, you can tell they're not the more »

  • Posted 05/25/2012 09:55:15 EDT

    Can we propose a new standard for cheating, such that everyone who cheats has to do it with sufficient discretion and subtlety that all the innocent bystanders can't tell they're cheating? more »

  • Posted 05/22/2012 11:51:14 EDT

    @penny-lane: I still can't tell how he came to be looking at moving out of state. Did you tell him to pursue his dreams even if they took him to Iceland, and he figured you meant it? Or did he tell yo more »

  • Posted 05/22/2012 11:37:33 EDT

    In fairness to Tim, nowhere does it say he doesn't pay rent. She says she bought the house on her own, the sane and responsible approach to a 30 year mortgage. I assume he contributes financially. And more »

  • Posted 05/22/2012 09:58:21 EDT

    Enigma wrote: What I cannot understand is why it has to be do or die? She is ONLY thirty childless. If he wants her as a part of his life, why not be adventurous and move with him? What is it with bei more »

  • Posted 05/22/2012 09:44:53 EDT

    Skywarp wrote: Wherever there's a man with great dreams, there's a woman right there to crush those dreams and say what about MEEEEEEEE. ---------- His dream is to have her as placeholder up until he' more »

  • Posted 05/22/2012 09:40:01 EDT

    Big Sigh wrote: The LW isn't thinking of how his PhD may benefit her in the decades to come. ---------- Your spouse's PhD may benefit you in the decades to come. Your current boyfriend's, not so much. more »

  • Posted 05/22/2012 09:24:10 EDT

    Peas wrote: If he'd frame it as - wherever he goes, he'd like you to come along, and apply to schools only in locations where you are willing to go - that would be a two-sided relationship. As it is n more »

  • Posted 05/16/2012 09:20:55 EDT

    AM wrote: Do you love the thought of children more or less than you love this guy? ------- Her husband said he loves her more than the thought of a life without children. Let's give him some credit fo more »

  • Posted 05/16/2012 09:15:44 EDT

    Wait a minute. He said he would have children with you, that if that was the price of admission to make you happy and stay together it was worthwhile. It is really not fair to send him away over this, more »

  • Comment on: He borrowed money

    Posted 05/11/2012 08:49:40 EDT

    We need the Schoolhouse Rock people to come up with a catchy jingle about how Other People Don't Give You Closure. This is a natural corollary to the thing about not signing a 30 year mortgage with so more »

  • Posted 04/13/2012 09:29:54 EDT

    Pink Freud wrote: For some people, marriage is much more than a ring and paper. -------- Legally, it is. If one of you is hospitalized on vacation, can the other be with them in the hospital? Who make more »

  • Posted 04/13/2012 09:21:02 EDT

    Okay, here's the thing. I believe marriage is different: it feels different, the legal and social protections and expectations are different. But let's call it just a formal step that freaks some peop more »

  • Posted 04/09/2012 09:15:39 EDT

    Give it a shot if B is willing to go all in, like, now. If it starts off on the note "but how will A feeeel?" from either one of you, then there are too many people in the relationship. The thing wher more »

  • Posted 03/30/2012 09:11:40 EDT

    The person who initiates the date pays. Expecting someone to pop in and offer to finance what you thought was affordable and worth the cost is rude, whatever your gender. What should be happening with more »

  • Posted 03/27/2012 09:17:15 EDT

    Has anyone here ever had a situation arise because their ex would come over, drop down at the computer to read all their e-mail, then go mope around telling people about what was in the e-mail and how more »

  • Posted 03/19/2012 09:16:33 EDT

    Um, you had one sparky kiss. And then you've seen each other since--the next morning, and at least talking and maybe in person several times--and none of those occasions were sparkly enough to merit m more »

  • Comment on: I'm bad at dating

    Posted 03/09/2012 09:30:04 EST

    JoshFederman wrote: "Like everyone here doesn't set their own "level" or "bar" for who they would or wouldn't date." ------- But he is Doing It Wrong. He has set a bar at the top of his "level" and de more »

  • Comment on: I'm bad at dating

    Posted 03/09/2012 09:16:46 EST

    I liked you well enough up until this: "As a result, I tend to settle for girls I feel are more "on my level" even when the women I really would like to get to know (see: more attractive in terms of w more »