A. Unquestionably, one of the worst table manners faux pas is to chew with your mouth open. It's disgusting. I once asked a group of women: On a first date, if a man chewed with his mouth open, would he get a second date? Unanimously and quite vociferously, they responded, "No way!" It's a "deal breaker." There are lots of mistakes you can make at a dinner table and people will shrug them off such as using the wrong fork. But chew with your mouth open and people won't want to eat with you again, they may choose not to go on another date, and they may decide not to select you for that important client-facing job or to work with you. Many people aren't even aware that they're doing it. One way to see yourself as others see you is to eat a meal in front of a mirror.
Address the issue with your friend with the goal of helping her to be more successful. Approach her privately and with the utmost sincerity. "Jessica, there's something I'm going to talk to you about, and, believe me, it's not an easy subject. If the tables were turned, I hope you would clue me in. I'm concerned because you're a bright, talented person, but this habit will negatively affect your success in business. Are you aware that you chew your food with your mouth open?"
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