Q. I go to the gym with a coworker, and we rotate days on who drives. I tend to change my clothes more quickly, and since she takes longer, it makes me late getting back to work. How do I go about starting to drive separately without getting her upset?
S. K., Thomasville, NC
A. Youíre correct: The key here is to solve the problem while not causing a rift. That means that ďhowĒ you talk to her is critical to a successful outcome. Your demeanor and tone of voice are as important as what you say. For example, what might upset your friend is if your tone of voice tells her that youíre irritated with her or that sheís doing something wrong. Focus on the problem which is your need to get back to work quickly. ďJenny, Iíve got a problem which is affecting our driving together. Unfortunately, Iíve got to get back to the office right after working out, so Iím going to drive over in my own car. Iíll meet you there.Ē Donít ask her if this is okay with her. Simply, in a positive, friendly voice, let her know this is what you are going to do. The next day you can let her know that it really worked better for you to have your own car at the gym.
Q. I work for a small yet fantastic environmental non-profit. Iím holding a Meet and Greet with a few of our major donors, new members, business leaders and board members at the home of a gracious board member. Since most of these people know each other, should I make name tags? My instinct is yes. I just need a nudge in the right direction.
W. G., Bend, OR
A. Your instincts are serving you wellóyes, nametags make sense especially because the people attending your event donít all know each other well. Nametags make the whole process of meeting, greeting and remembering names so much easier, especially the remembering names part. One of the most frequently asked questions The Emily Post Institute receives is what to do when you have to make an introduction and you canít remember a personís name. With name tags the angst of that problem is removed, and people can more easily take advantage of mingling which is the whole point of your meet and greet.
By the way, if youíre in a situation where you need to introduce a person and you donít remember their name (and theyíre not wearing a name tag), the best solution is to admit your predicament, ask for the personís name, and then make the introduction. ďIím sorry, could you please tell me your name?Ē
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