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Being Forthright Can Benefit Career Move

Q. I have worked for a law firm in a small town for 6 years now, and I知 ready for a change. I have been looking for a job for almost a year now and just came across one I知 really excited about, but the new attorney is very good friends with one of my current attorneys. New guy says he would love to hire me, but he is afraid of harming his friendship with my current boss. We agreed neither of us would tell anyone, but we don稚 know how to handle this so that everyone is happy. My current boss is 殿ll business, and I don稚 think he値l be heartbroken or all that surprised that I want to leave, but how can I be sure that he won稚 be mad at his friend? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

A. I., Asheville, NC

A. You値l never be sure he won稚 be mad at his friend, but that shouldn稚 stop you from doing the right thing. The best route you and New Guy can go is to let Current Boss know what is going on. You池e fortunate that Current Boss is 殿ll business and is not likely to be upset with you or let the situation harm his relationship with New Guy. You should approach Current Boss ASAP and say something like: 典hanks for seeing me. As you know I致e been here for six years. I have really enjoyed my time here and appreciate all you致e done for me. Recently, I began keeping my eyes open for new opportunities, and one has turned up that whether it happens or not, you should know about. New Guy has an opening at his firm. I知 interested in it and wanted to be sure to tell you about it before you heard it from anyone else. The key here is you want him to hear the news from you and not a third party source. If you just accept the offer from New Guy the cats out of the bag anyway, and you and he look like you were trying to hide something.

Your big mistake is agreeing not to tell anyone. It may have seemed like it was the best solution, but it really is a subterfuge. The problem with subterfuge葉he white lie or anything else you care to call it擁s getting caught is much worse than dealing with the situation in an honest way to begin with. Unfortunately, the time you really don稚 want to get caught葉he time the consequences will be very unpleasant謡ill be the time you will get caught. Best bet: Come clean right away so you can complete your work with Current Boss on a positive note, begin working for New Guy with a clean conscience, and give New Guy the best chance of maintaining his personal relationship with Current Boss.

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