She’s still wondering about him after a breakup

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I’m writing about a recent end to a complicated relationship that still has me wondering.

I’m in my late 40s and divorced. For a few months I have been experimenting with an online dating service. After exchanging e-mails with a guy who is in his 40s with two divorces (his last marriage ended because his wife had an affair) and three children, we met for dinner. It was spontaneous combustion in all dimensions: intellectually, emotionally, and physically, and we both knew it right away.

The first time overnight at his home (weeks into dating), he vocalized his frustration in bed and said, “I haven’t done this in a while.”

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