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Dear Abby responds to anti-gay couple seeking advice

Posted by David Zimmerman  February 20, 2014 10:30 AM

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A Florida couple might have gotten more than they asked for when they wrote in to Dear Abby seeking advice. The couple, who referred to themselves as “Unhappy in Tampa” wrote to the columnist looking for input regarding a situation with their “new neighbors”. The couple recently moved to Tampa and found out that several of their neighbors are gay. When it came time for the “Unhappy”couple to host the neighborhood get together they did not invite the gay couples because they “do not approve of their lifestyle choices.”

Since that time the “Unhappy” couple have been excluded from other neighborhood events and “someone even suggested that we are bigots!” the letter states.

“Abby, we moved here from a conservative community where people were pretty much the same. If people were "different," they apparently kept it to themselves. While I understand the phrase "when in Rome," I don't feel we should have to compromise our values just to win the approval of our neighbors. But really, who is the true bigot here? Would you like to weigh in?” the letter concludes.

At this point Abby took the opportunity to respond.

DEAR UNHAPPY: I sure would. The first thing I'd like to say is that regardless of what you were told in your previous community, a person's sexual orientation isn't a "lifestyle choice." Gay people don't choose to be gay; they are born that way. They can't change being gay any more than you can change being heterosexual.

I find it interesting that you are unwilling to reciprocate the hospitality of people who welcomed you and opened their homes to you, and yet you complain because you are receiving similar treatment.

From where I sit, you may have chosen the wrong place to live because it appears you would be happier in a less integrated neighborhood surrounded by people who think the way you do. But if you interact only with people like yourselves, you will have missed a chance for growth, which is what you have been offered here. Please don't blow it.

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