Eventually Russell discovered that he could download his schedule to Courtney’s iPhone in advance, and she grew to accept the rhythms of his work. As for the anniversary sandwich, she said, “I could be mad about that, sure. But I got to spend 15 minutes with him.’’
Russell knows his schedule is hard on Courtney, and said he felt especially guilty early on in Boston, before she had a job and friends. Before he leaves for work at 6 a.m. — Courtney is still asleep — he makes her coffee and leaves a short note next to her mug. “When we do have time together,’’ Russell said, “we try to make the most of it.’’
Holt is a lawyer who had been laid off from her firm in St. Louis, when she moved to Boston for her husband’s residency in 2009.
“There can be resentment,’’ she said. “Everyone feels it, it’s not talked about that much.’’
Moving to just blocks from the hospital has helped them — they can meet for a quick meal. So has Holt’s independent nature. She’s taken their daughter to visit family on holidays or meet friends for a vacation, when her husband has had to work.
Ariane Sroubek, 27, said she is “not naturally independent but it’s something I had to learn how to do’’ being married to a first-year resident, or intern, at Mass. General. On Jan. 2, she and her husband, Jakub, had a daughter, Hana, and the hospital allowed him to go on two weeks paternity leave immediately. Now, her parents often drive down from New Hampshire to help. Jakub is from the Czech Republic.
“I don’t know what we’d do if we didn’t have her family nearby,’’ Jakub said. The past few months have been more challenging than he anticipated, he said, because he started two intense jobs at once: doctor and father.
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