I've had several brides wear fur accessories for their engagement or wedding photos, and I always think it looks stunning. For a late fall or winter wedding, most couples would still like to do portraits outdoors but don't want to throw on a big black parka over their wedding dress. A fur coat can be a great way to stay really warm but still look formal, sophisticated, and super stylish. And I have to say, fur photographs beautifully.
The brides I've shot have all gotten their furs from older relatives or vintage shops, so ask your grandma if she might have one gathering dust in the attic. Of course, fur can be a controversial choice, and you can always choose a faux fur! That's the route I would go, and you would never be able to tell the difference in a photo.
What do you think? Would you wear fur to your wedding? Is it too old-fashioned for you?
Photo by Hello Love Photography
My fiance and I would like to ask a family member from each side of our families to do a reading. I'm having the hardest time choosing between the many aunts and uncles in my extended family. I feel there are hurt feelings inevitably on the way. Any tips on sidestepping this ugly part of the process?
Dear Family Matters,
This is a tough one to learn, and I did the hard way, but I think hurt feelings, despite the best intentions, can be difficult to avoid in such an emotionally charged situation. Knowing, though, that they come with the territory, the best thing to do is talk openly with each family member and explain the situation. Be as transparent as possible. It takes courage, but that courage leads to growth, and that's what getting married is all about. You've gotta break eggs to make omelettes. Ultimately you will be happy the day of your wedding that you handled the topic with thoughtful and candid conversation.
Best of luck,
Peter Pan collars were a big trend this year, and I stumbled upon this lovely dress recently which showcases the trend so beautifully. I love feminine and vintage details and this dress seems to be the perfect balance of sophisticated and sweet.
What do you think? Too trendy? Perhaps I should renew my vows.... ;)
Elie Saab dress via Boutique1
Speaking from experience I can say with a full heart that I have no second thoughts about the choice to register for our honeymoon. My husband and I enjoyed so many fun activities throughout our Italian 'luna di miele'. Indulgent boat rides, nights out and afternoons poolside were accompanied by rich toasts to the close friends and family that made these opportunities possible. Furthermore, instead of the burden of lots of nice new things piling up in an apartment we didn't have, we simply felt celebrated. After the fact, our guests loved the stories we shared with them when we got back . They were proud that they personally shaped our adventures abroad. Registering for a memorable honeymoon = Never a bad decision.
Above is a photo of Mike and I on the top of Anacapri mid September 2010. My, how time flies.
Dear Becca and Casey,
I am one of the many lucky ladies who got engaged on Valentine's Day! My fiance and I are hoping to just enjoy the engagement for a little while before we dive into planning. I'm thinking I'd like to get married next June - when do you think we should start looking at photographers?
Confused about the Calendar
First of all, congrats! I totally understand wanting some time to soak in the fun of being newly engaged, and you should definitely do that! However, it is always a good idea to get the biggest things (venue, caterer, planner, photographer, florist, band) booked as soon as you can, and then you can relax before you have to start working on all the other small details. People book really far out, especially in a seasonal wedding market like New England. September can book up almost two years in advance for some photographers! Choosing a photographer takes time, so it doesn't hurt to start doing your research now.
Another word of advice: if you find yourself stuck and aren't able to find a photographer available for your date, ask your vendors for help! I have a great network of local photographers I am happy to recommend to brides, and I am almost always able to find someone who is available.
Don't worry, the right vendors are out there for you!
Best of luck,
Photo by Hello Love Photography
Are you and your sweetie planning anything fun for Valentine's Day tomorrow? In the craziness of wedding planning, it can be really great to take a break and go out on a romantic date to remember what brought you together in the first place. Put the planning aside (no discussing DJs or catering menus!) and spend some time together. If you're a last-minute shopper, here are some cute cards from Gus & Ruby Letterpress in Portsmouth, New Hampshire.
And if you're looking for a one-stop shop, you can pick up a card and some beautiful flowers arranged by our talented Becca at a pop-up flower shop they are holding tomorrow! You can find all of the information below.
My fiance and I grew up out of state, but we've lived in Boston for 13+ years. We're holding our wedding at a barn about an hour outside the city. My girlfriend recently asked if we were providing transport to and from the city. This hadn't even occurred to me and is not accounted for in our budget. How can I afford this? Or respond when this comes up again?
Help, Lost In Transportation.
Dear Lost in Transportation,
First, please allow me a quick rant. Wedding attendees, this one's for you: It's a probably a good idea to keep your comments, opinions and suggested how-to's OUT of your friends' wedding plans. It's none of your business, and surely we can all find a way to get along with our big-kid pants on. For the transport issue at hand, designate a driver, call a cab. Ok! I feel better now.
Back to the question at hand, LIT, not to fret, it is by no means your duty as hosts to provide transport. It is a nice gesture to notify guests of a few hotels nearby your venue so they can rest after a night of inspired debauchery. If there are no local hotels, check for homes that can be rented by groups of friends and family. VRBO is a fabulous website for such a search.
Best of luck, and keep in touch!
What are my thoughts on creating the signature cocktail? It's a major DO. It's a fun and simple way to add whimsy to your special day. I think if Mike and I were to get married again we might have to offer our guests the MOBO-rita. Adding our initials to our all time favorite Mexican elixir.
photo by: White Loft Studio
I'm getting married in April (I've always wanted a spring wedding), and every time I tell someone, all they can talk about is how it will probably rain! We are having an outdoor ceremony and reception, and there is a Plan B to move everything inside in case of rain. However, I'd really like to have our portraits taken outside.
How can I get this worry out of my head? Is there a way to have great wedding photos taken, even if they have to be taken inside somewhere?
Worried about the Weather
I have shot on many a rainy wedding day. This summer seemed to have an incredible amount of rainy Saturdays! Many people will tell you that rain on your wedding day is good luck for your marriage. While I don't necessarily think that the weather has anything to do with the state of your relationship, I do think that rain can make for some really fantastic photos - often even better than on a sunny day! Hear me out.
Sunny days mean harsh, unflattering light and shadows. When the sun is in your eyes, it's hard not to squint. On overcast days, the clouds create a perfect diffuser for the sunlight and that means your photographer can shoot from any angle and the light will be universally flattering. This means more flexibility for shooting locations, too!
Of course, if the rain is pouring down it's a little more complicated. But personally, I think your best bet is to huddle together under an umbrella and head out anyways! I always keep a big umbrella in my car just for this purpose. Although it may not be ideal, I think umbrella photos are really cute and unique. It's always fun to add a prop to photo sessions, and I think umbrellas add a certain vintage charm to photos. Any photographer worth their salt will grab an umbrella and run out there without hesitation - anything for beautiful photos!
Most importantly, remember that worrying won't affect the weather and that at the end of the day, you'll be married, rain or shine! Wishing you all the best!
Photos by Hello Love Photography
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Here's a shout for all the men out there. The public perception on bowties has evolved considerably in the last 2 decades. During the Saved by the Bell Nineties, the bowtie was nerdy not in a good way, a veritable fashion mistake. Now, thanks to Lebron, JT and other big time players, the pesky accessory is making a roaring comeback to cool. Throw in some suspenders and a pair of Warby Parkers for the the perfect groom geek-chic trifecta.
Here are a few of my favorite bowties:
Need a little help in the how-to department? Follow these 6 simple steps:
1. Right-handeds, pull the right side 2-3 inches longer than the left and then loop it over the left side to tie. Left-handeds, replace the word ‘left’ where it says ‘right’ from here on out.
2. Holding the top piece up to your face, pull the lower piece to the right and fold it across the front so that it forms half of the bow.
3. Bring the top piece down over your half-bow.
4.Fold both ends of the half-bow together in front of you.
5. Notice the loop created behind your half-bow. Pull the dangling piece toward the right, fold it into your other half-bow, and then back it into (and through) the loop.
6. Once through, hold on to both the loops and flat pieces, gently tugging and tightening to finish the look. Don't you look handsome!
*all images via BHLDN