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Dear Inspired: Defending my daughter

Posted by Becca Olcott  May 6, 2013 08:00 AM

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Dear Becca and Casey,

My daughter, the Groom's (my wife's brother) niece, was asked to be the flower girl in his wedding months ago. We've ordered her dress and she was excited about the wedding. Yesterday, 3 months prior to the wedding, my brother-in-law told my wife he expected my daughter to go home after the ceremony as no kids are invited to the wedding. My wife and I are very upset and feel that our daughter should be allowed to enjoy a meal and some dancing as part of the wedding party. Are we out of line?


Defending my daughter

Dear DD,

You're not exactly out of line, but you may need a perspective correction. While I can understand where you're coming from, at the end of day the bride and groom have decided to invite children for the ceremony only and it's their call to make. I'm sure they have their reasons and that the decision was not easy. As you are a member of the family, I say take the high road, swallow the inconvenience. and accept your daughter's participation as a gesture of inclusion and love. Your sole purpose as guest is to celebrate the couple as best you can, while you can. I know when I was growing up it was adventure enough to have a night in a dress, even with a babysitter!

Best of luck,

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Becca Olcott has a thing for old love letters and good old-fashioned romance. Bringing daily wedding updates and advice is second nature to Becca. She spends her days working with the brides of New England designing tablescapes full of lush florals and antique gems through her business Petal Floral Design.
Casey Harrison is a wedding and portrait photographer in the lovely city of Boston. She spends her days scouting the countryside for beautiful locations for shoots and taking photos of couples in love through her business Hello Love Photography.

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