This week, blind-dater Kathleen says there “wasn’t much chemistry fairly early on in the dinner” even though she found her date, Dan, attractive. What can you read between the lines?
KATHLEEN DILLON > 24
Coast Guard seaman
THE LAST THING SHE READ AND ENJOYED
The Teammates, by David Halberstam
WHO PLAYS HER IN A MOVIE?
DAN STEWART > 23
THE LAST THING HE READ AND ENJOYED
I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, by Tucker Max
WHO PLAYS HIM IN A MOVIE?
7 P.M. KHAO SARN, BROOKLINE
DAN I tried looking into the window as I was walking up [and] I noticed Kathleen.
KATHLEEN The hostess seated us right after he arrived. I thought he was very attractive, but young-looking. He ended up being a year younger than me.
DAN She had a nice smile, and she was well dressed and blond — all good things in my book! [But] she seemed pretty nervous. She did some nervous laughing, and I could tell she wasn’t completely comfortable. I was pretty comfortable at the beginning. I mean, I meet and talk to strangers every day.
> TONIGHT’S SPECIALS
KATHLEEN [Before ordering drinks], we discussed our jobs. I was interested to hear from him about working in the restaurant industry. He has a goal of one day owning or managing his own restaurant, and I admired his ambition.
DAN We talked about her being in the Coast Guard and how she just moved to Massachusetts. You know — all the usual questions you ask someone when you first meet them.
KATHLEEN He has been to 46 out of 50 states, which I thought was interesting.
DAN We both enjoyed our dishes, and the waitress was pleasant. It was a nice little restaurant.
KATHLEEN The service was excellent. Dan kept telling me different tips he had picked up over the years, working in restaurants.
> COURSE CORRECTION
DAN The night went on [and] we never really loosened up. There were a couple of jokes here and there, but we were running out of things to talk about.
KATHLEEN We didn’t share any common interests, but [we] still found fun things to talk about.
DAN I’m not sure if I said anything to make it or break it. But the deal breaker for me was how quiet she was. I felt like I was doing most of the talking and she did a lot of agreeing. When I was trying to get a conversation started, it just didn’t go anywhere.
KATHLEEN I thought that there wasn’t much chemistry fairly early on in the dinner. I think we’re at different points in our lives, with different goals that we’re working toward.
DAN I just knew that “this is not going to work,” because I like people who will just cut loose with me and talk about anything and everything. I like banter! Maybe Kathleen was just a little too shy for my personality.
> SECOND DATE?
DAN No, I think that maybe we can be friends.
KATHLEEN No, I don’t think so. Dan was a really interesting guy, but there was no spark. — Compiled by Peter Cocchia
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