It's good to know we're not alone.
Over the weekend I learned that the Mister and I represent part of the 42% of Americans living in the Northeast who are paying for their own wedding.
Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for EVERYTHING. Well, I take that back. The groom's parents are supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner and other small things here and there, but tradition states that the bride and her family come out of pocket the most during the wedding planning stage.
In our case, tradition has left the building. Actually, it never even stepped foot in the building.
Shortly after we got engaged, we had the inevitable money talk. It was during that conversation that we decided our wedding would be financed with our own money, on our own terms. A joint savings account was opened and we both set aside money from our paychecks to put towards paying for the wedding and goals beyond the wedding.
Yay to being grown ups!
I wouldn't feel comfortable asking my family to pay for our wedding. It's our wedding. Think about it. If you and your partner are both stable and functioning adults then why would you want your parents to pay for everything?
Our parents are pretty awesome, though. My mother gave me a choice. My dress or the honeymoon. I chose my dress which I plan to keep under a certain budget out of respect for her. The Mister's mother has agreed to help defray the costs of our reception in order to accommodate the out-of-country relatives she added to our guest list. And for this, we are extremely grateful!
Are you and your partner paying for your own wedding?
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