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When your Maid of Honor forgets the part about honor

Posted by Angel Babbitt Harris  January 21, 2013 08:54 PM

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Assembling a group of women for an afternoon of oohing and aahing over lace and chiffon is not my idea of fun. Couple that with a Maid of Honor having a bad day and you've just been given access to how I spent my weekend.

This past Sunday was meant to be a trial run for my bridal party to gather together to try on dresses. All was going swimmingly until...

The Maid of Honor had a moment.

I could hear the moral support seeping out of the fitting room like a wounded hot air balloon. There we were standing next to a pile of sequined tops and one-shoulder strappy gowns having an uncomfortable exchange in front of the entire bridal party. Her flippant remarks caught me off guard. She is supposed to be my maid of honor, but what was so honorable about her behavior on that day?

We read about the duties of the Maid of Honor in countless articles written to appease the average bride-to-be. These responsibilities vary and include tasks as simple as holding the bride's bouquet during the ceremony to more complex roles such as planning a bachelorette party or bridal shower luncheon.

My personal favorite duty is when the Maid of Honor is simply there for you. No strings attached. She honors you during this important time in your life. She honors the decisions you are making. She honors you by listening. She honors you by understanding. She's there to alleviate the stress and, in some cases, she's there to make you laugh.

Typically, a reliable sister or long-time BFF will float to the top of the list of viable candidates to step into the role of Maid (or Matron, and in some cases Man) of Honor. The logical choice is to select the person who knows you best and can step up and be the chief attendant on your big day. Choose this person wisely. The decision could make or break your wedding day!

I bet I'm not alone on this topic. Readers, care to share any of your own Maid of Honor experiences? Leave a comment below.

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About this blog

Angel Babbitt Harris, formerly of the Expertly Engaged blog, is now "Newly Wed" and learning how to navigate life as a happy wife. Angel lives for weekend getaways to Brooklyn with her husband and anything currently playing on Netflix. She works as a Marketing Manager for a non-profit organization in Boston. Need newlywed advice? Have newlywed advice to give? Reach Angel directly at or tweet her at @MrsHarrisTweets.

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