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Actually, you're 'not invited' to the wedding...

Posted by Angel Babbitt Harris  February 18, 2013 10:04 AM

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Last week, a coworker sent me a link to an article about a new wedding trend that's drawing quite a bit of criticism in the wedding world: the anti-invite.

Call it harsh or downright rude, but in the article senior editor of TODAY, Rina Raphael, informs readers that more couples are sending out these alerts than you may think. In today's economy, those who are planning weddings are keeping a closer eye on their budgets which often means that the guest list is the first place to downsize. Add to that the fact that we are an "information oversharing generation," and many of us feel compelled to let people know everything... even stuff that's better left unsaid. Stuff like, "Actually, you're NOT invited to the wedding!"

The most amusing part of the article is when Raphael interviewed an anonymous bride who informed friends that they were placed on a waiting list for her wedding and would be notified if 'an opening' came up for a full invitation. These second-tier friends harbored some resentment, but STILL readily accepted the invite, even if they were labeled as 'B-list' friends.

Ha! What will they think of next?!

I don't think I'm feeling this trend. What happened to the days when non-guests just figured out they weren't invited when they simply didn't get a save the date in the mail?

Have you ever been on the receiving end of one of these 'you're not invited' email alerts? Share your story by leaving a comment below.

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About this blog

Angel Babbitt Harris, formerly of the Expertly Engaged blog, is now "Newly Wed" and learning how to navigate life as a happy wife. Angel lives for weekend getaways to Brooklyn with her husband and anything currently playing on Netflix. She works as a Marketing Manager for a non-profit organization in Boston. Need newlywed advice? Have newlywed advice to give? Reach Angel directly at or tweet her at @MrsHarrisTweets.

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