It's the fifth week of "After the Altar," my summer blog series dedicated to celebrating the union of marriage and the beauty of love. I took a short break from blogging for the July 4th holiday, but I'm back with another married couple who will bravely share their challenges, triumphs, and secrets to wedded bliss.
We often focus on the work that goes into the wedding day -- the invitations, the cake, the dress, the guests. Let's give equal attention to the 'work' that takes place after the altar.
Boston.com, meet Tresa and Ed.
Dorchester couple Tresa and Ed have been married for 22 years. That's what I call serious love. The simple and sound advice they offer is refreshing, and serves as a much needed reminder on the importance of communication. Let's see what they have to say.
Expertly Engaged: How did you meet?
Ed: We met while in college during a summer break. I attended Delaware State College and Tresa attended Northeastern University.
Expertly Engaged: If you could describe marriage in one word, what would you say?
Tresa & Ed: Marriage is love, but that goes without saying so the next word would be commitment.
Expertly Engaged: I once heard that a happy marriage requires more maintenance than a car. How do you maintain a happy and healthy marriage after 22 years?
Tresa & Ed: We are friends first. The euphoria that you experience when you first meet someone eventually wears off. Our friendship helps us to sustain our love for each other.
Expertly Engaged: Has being married enhanced any part of your life as individuals? If so, what part?
Tresa & Ed: It is hard for us to isolate any one thing because there are so many instances in the past 22 years where we have been supportive of each other. So weâ€™ll just say that we are better people because of each other.
Expertly Engaged: What advice would you give to all the newlywed and soon-to-wed out there?
Tresa & Ed: Communication is key. Never say things in the heat of the moment that would be hard to take back. Never tell each other what you want to hear but tell each other, respectfully, what you NEED to hear.
We're winding down to the final weeks of my summer blog series (insert sad face here), so be sure to send an email my way if you know a married couple whose relationship is all that and a bag of chips and feature ready for After the Altar!
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