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Guests Didn't Give Wedding Gifts? Keep Calm and Carry On

Posted by Angel Babbitt Harris  October 29, 2013 03:42 PM

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I'm big on thank yous. For me, it's important to send thank you cards to all of our guests, even those who did not give gifts. Yes, I just went there. Wedding does not equal gift. While we greatly appreciated the gifts received, it was certainly not an expectation. Many of our family members came in from out of town to attend our wedding, many took days off from work -- and for that, a prompt and sincere thank you should be extended to every person who attended.

Not everyone agrees with this sentiment.

Some of you may recall the The New York Times article published this summer about a woman who wed in 1994 and still vividly remembers all the guests who didn't bother to give gifts. Really? She's still salty after 19 years? Sad, but true. What's even more sad is she's not alone. Many people take this seriously and get offended when the 'no-wedding gift guest' shows up to their wedding empty-handed. Personally, I don't have time to worry or lament over who didn't gift us. I'm much too busy trying to solve the mystery of the card we received with money inside but no signature!

Etiquette varies on this topic depending on who you ask. Here's my two cents: Always take the high road. Just don't do what this crazy couple did after receiving a gift they didn't like. Gulp!

Newlyweds, how are you handling wedding gift thank yous and guests who didn't gift?

I'd love to hear your stories.

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About this blog

Angel Babbitt Harris, formerly of the Expertly Engaged blog, is now "Newly Wed" and learning how to navigate life as a happy wife. Angel lives for weekend getaways to Brooklyn with her husband and anything currently playing on Netflix. She works as a Marketing Manager for a non-profit organization in Boston. Need newlywed advice? Have newlywed advice to give? Reach Angel directly at or tweet her at @MrsHarrisTweets.

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