Asked whether the couple considered the reverse name — devinlovespat — Devin burst into laughter. “No,” she said instantly. “It’s kind of an inside joke. He claims he’s been in love with me since freshman year in college, but we didn’t start dating until seven years later.”
In many ways, wedding websites make things much easier. All the information is in one place. (And a new, mobile wedding app — Appy Couple — even lets guests easily find information as they’re driving to the church — or trying to find it.) But websites can also make more work for the guests, some say. There are quizzes to take, guest book comments to write, photos to be taken for upload.
“I think that brides expect people to participate in their websites a lot more than people want to,” said Siri Agrell, author of “Bad Bridesmaid: Bachelorette Brawls and Taffeta Tantrums — Tales From the Front Lines.’’ “If someone sends you a link to her website and you don’t say ‘Great website!’ it’s a new breach of wedding etiquette.”
But, she noted, some of the websites themselves are enormous breaches of etiquette. “You can do tacky things on the Web that you would not do on paper. On paper you’d never say, ‘Pay for my honeymoon,’ but on a website you can have a link to a PayPal account.”
Tacky or not, a website also serves another very practical function. It cuts down on calls. Businesses like this — and so do brides. “Before I had the website, all my aunts were calling me and calling me with questions,” said Madeline Herec, 27, a grad student from Brighton.
The aunts were curious about accommodations in Newport, R.I., where she’s marrying in July, and whether there will be a bathroom on the boat the groom’s parents are chartering. “Now I’m like, just go to the website.”