If there is only one feminist reader left in the world, I am that reader, and an enthusiastic reader of Robert B. Parker's novels ("Man of Mystery," October 14). Parker's awareness of fairness in relationships is as acute as his social critiques are astute. That's why Susan Silverman is such an appealing character - sure, she has flaws, but she also has the kind of good judgment that comes from bad experiences, and she's generous about passing on what she knows to her clients.
That Born-Again Feeling
I have taught my children that if someone politely asks them to stop doing something because it is bothersome, they should stop it. Apparently, Robin Abrahams did not grow up with this same advice. In her response to a question about asking a co-worker to stop saying "I'm praying for you" ("Miss Conduct," October 14), she wrote that the questioner should "get over it" and the behavior's only offense is that it doesn't "cohere with your personal worldview." Our world is filled with people who don't have the same beliefs and values. We should strive for a way to discuss differences and come to some mutual agreement about how to coexist peacefully. Simply telling someone to "get over it" is arrogant and as intolerant as Miss Conduct believes the questioner to be.
I disagree with Miss Conduct's answer. The question is not about religion really - it's about speech that "persists" after repeatedly saying it is unwelcome. If people want to pray for me, let them knock themselves out. But once I ask them not to tell me about it, I expect my wishes to be respected, especially in the confines of the workplace.
Robin Abrahams responds: Sorry, folks. I'm not backing down on this one. The praying employee isn't doing anything harmful, and the nonbeliever is failing to take a good opportunity to showcase the secular virtues of tolerance and logic.
Just when I thought it was safe to walk away from the computer. I had Googled everyone I know, everyone I partly know, and everyone I don't know. I was beginning to suffer from a severe case of Internet ennui. Just in time comes moogling ("Perspective," October 14). I can now see everyone's mortgage? And it won't cost me anything? Well, maybe a little self-respect.
I'm so addicted to masslandrecords. com that it's my home page.