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By Robin Abrahams
03:15 PM

... is online here.

One topic that came up was joint birthday parties for siblings. Should the invite make it clear that both Sean and Cody are celebrating, or should invites to Sean's friends only mention him, and those to Cody's, likewise? It's a bit of a dilemma. Longtime chatter Mansfield Mom e-mailed me post-chat to explain how it's worked in her 'hood:


The invitations that I've received for Sibling Birthday Parties are worded as though they are only for one child. So, as the party attendee, I don't realize that it's actually a party for 2 children until I get there & see that there are 2 cakes or one cake with both names, etc. So there I am, with my one gift for the one child. Like I said, the first time it was a little weird and all of us mommies were wondering if we had misread our invitation. But now the idea has taken off and everyone seems to be getting the gist of it.

I do hope the trend continues. The birthday party thing is out of control. I'm glad to see that parents are beginning to think more practically and economically.

Those of you who prefer childish humor to children may be more interested in this excerpt:

jb: what's a good way to pick your nose?

Robin_Abrahams: I've never had cosmetic surgery myself, but I imagine surgeons can show you a computerized version of yourself with different "styles." Some beauty shops can do that, so I'm sure doctors can. Anyway, get something that's proportionate with the rest of your face, and ethnically plausible--bring a friend along for a second opinion. You want to avoid the Michael Jackson look at all costs.