Saturday, 2:15 PM
Advice from Abigail Lipson, of Harvard’s Bureau of Study Counsel:
-- Feel bad. If you feel bad about failing … good! Strong feelings – even feelings of shame or regret or emotional pain – serve a very important purpose. They make us stop and pay attention. They push us to resolve or correct the situation in which we find ourselves.
-- Learn to see the signs. There are almost always signs that appear in advance of any significant failure. … Maybe assistance or alternatives were offered to you, but you turned them down out of pride or shame. Next time around, when you see these signs again, you’ll recognize what direction they are pointing.
--Admit the truth. Many a failure is brought about or made worse by not admitting the truth, and many a failure can be put squarely on the path to resilience and resolution by admitting it.
-- Articulate what you’ve learned. Spell it out. Write it up. Post a blog. Write it on your bulletin board. Make a T-shirt.
-- Fail again. The best way to do justice to the pain of failing is by learning from it, growing from it, and mining it as a rich source of new wisdom and confidence.