Online, the Loftises believe that negative comments and questions must be addressed, not ignored. When people would write, “Why didn’t you know where your daughter was?” and “What kind of parents are you?” friends and family members would answer that Allie was a good kid, and the Loftises were good parents.
Tony said parents should even assume their child has access to the Internet and post comments directly to them: “We desperately want you back."
“If you don’t communicate this, people assume you don’t care, that you did something to drive her away,” said Tony. “Parents are the kid’s best advocate. Otherwise, people won’t work for you.”
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