The message may not reach every student. At the dinner, women outnumbered men 3 to 1, although 55 percent of undergraduates and 69 percent of graduate students are men. Some said those attending may not be those who need charm school most.
“Unfortunately, I think this is a self-selecting crowd,” Kane said as she looked around the room. The school’s reputation for having students more academically than socially gifted had affected her, she said. “I think sometimes, going to MIT, the expectations are lower, so I don’t have to try so hard.”