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Benefits cited as more US women over 40 give birth

EVANSVILLE, Ind. -- At 63, while many of Judith Cates's peers are contemplating retiring to Florida, she is taking her 5-year-old twins to pizza parties and picking up toys.

Just keeping the girls' hair combed can be a full-time task.

''Carli, you look like a ragamuffin," she said, smiling as one of the girls' hair drooped in her face.

Cates gave birth when she was 57, even older than a New York woman who gave birth to twins this month just shy of her 57th birthday. A 59-year-old Georgia woman is pregnant with twins and due in December.

As medicine has advanced, so has the ability of older women to conceive.

A report released this week by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that the number of births to women older than 40 exceeded 100,000 for the first time in 2003. It also found that there were 1,512 first-time mothers between ages 45 and 54 last year.

Cates and her husband, Carl M. Cates Jr., 53, concede that they have endured some awkward moments, such as when people have assumed the girls are their grandchildren. But they would not trade their situation for the world.

''They keep us laughing with everything they do and say," Judith Cates said. ''If I wasn't so old, we'd try for two more."

Researchers say older parents have some advantages. A study of 30,000 households showed that people who had children in their 40s were better off financially, spent more time with their children, and had a closer connection to the children's friends than younger parents, said Brian Powell, a sociology professor at Indiana University.

''The older you were as a parent, the better off the child," Powell said.

But others question what happens when older parents suffer health problems or die. Even some family members have questioned the Cateses' decision.

Judith Cates's niece, Traci Wells, 31, of Owensboro, Ky., said she is not sure she would recommend that other women in their 50s have children.

''I'm concerned about when they get older, having to deal with the loss of their parents at an early age," Wells said.

The Cateses opted to leave that in God's hands when they decided to try to conceive three years into their marriage.

Cates conceived through in-vitro fertilization after several attempts and thousands of dollars. She and her husband cried the day they first saw the hearts beat on a monitor in her doctor's office.

Still, being pregnant at a late age presented some challenges.

For the first three months of her pregnancy, she had to have daily injections to prevent a miscarriage, and she was put on bed rest for the last few months. But Cates avoided many other complications associated with pregnancy among older women, and Margaret Jan Marie and Carli Sue Morgan were born at nearly full-term Dec. 12, 1998.

''They were healthy, just perfect when they came out," she said. ''We were so lucky there."

Carl Cates, who works two jobs while his wife stays home with the girls, said parenting the twins is ''an experience we enjoy 100 percent, if not more."

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