Someone who grew up amid comfortable surroundings in Weston, never seemed to get into trouble for getting into trouble and was the pampered scion of Red Sox Royalty probably had no trouble using term like that to describe any undesirable people he met.
But Jared Remy used it to describe the family of Jennifer Martel, the woman who bore his second child.
Martel's family spoke at length in an article published in Sunday's Boston Globe about their daughter's relationship with Remy and her death in 2013. The Eric Moskowitz piece is required reading for anyone who is interested in this case, in humanity as a whole or enjoys compelling journalism.
Jared Remy sits in jail, awaiting trial for the murder of Martel. Her life story is achingly sad to recount, even this far out since she was stabbed multiple times last Aug. 15. Martel was somehow smitten by Remy, who was working as a security guard for the Red Sox, when they met back in 2007.
At its most benign level, this is a "sports" story. Jerry Remy, who played for Boston from 1978-84, has been offering analysis for Red Sox games on television for 26-plus seasons. Every time you pay your cable or satellite bill, or your monthly fee for the MLB package online, you are indirectly helping to pay his NESN salary. Remy admitted to WEEI's "Dennis and Callahan" in March that he "enabled" his son by supporting him financially throughout his life, never considered cutting off Jared Remy financially and continues to pay his son's legal costs.
The issue of whether or not Remy should call games this season, in the wake of Martel's death, has been decided. As some of you may know, this column was on the losing side in that debate.
Remy's presence in the NESN booth has not been a "distraction," as some like myself incorrectly argued. The Red Sox have presented enough problems and concerns on the field to keep viewers yelling at the television so often they can't hear the announcers anyway. The off-topic give-and-take and chit-chat between Remy and Don Orsillo aren't enough to sway viewers to think everything is "A-OK" in Red Sox Nation this season, especially when the team was 12th in the American League with a .244 average heading into Sunday night's game.
The Tigers completed their weekend sweep of the fourth-place-but-only-three-games-out Red Sox with a 6-2 victory that aired on ESPN. About 3 hours and 30 minutes into the telecast, John Kruk talked about how things are different in the Red Sox clubhouse this season. When Kruk and Dan Shulman met with Manager John Farrell Sunday for their pre-broadcast chat, there were no players present before or after their conversation, Kruk said. Last year, Kruk countered, players were present in the clubhouse early and often, consistently talking baseball.
Sunday's loss marked the first time the Red Sox have dropped four straight under Farrell. How long will it take to hear "Guess Bobby Valentine wasn't the problem, after all" on the radio Monday?
Since no one in the Red Sox Clubhouse wants to talk baseball these days, we'll follow their lead. Sunday's piece in the Globe was just latest [insert cliche here] to fall in this saga. It won't be the last.
Remy's trial is scheduled to begin on October 16, which could be about the same day as Game 3 or 4 of the ALCS.
Imagine, perhaps with assistance from some mild hallucinogenics, your Boston Red Sox miraculously win 89 games. They emerge with an A.L. East title. Then Boston somehow gets past Oakland in the divisional series.
A lot of big ifs, for sure. Impossible dreaming, but stick with us.
This could leave the Red Sox and Yankees [let's say a 2nd A.L. wildcard upset of Detroit in their ALDS] with an historic 2004 ALCS rematch. Then on the day of Game 4 of the ALCS, the six o'clock news on Channel 5 opens with a split screen between the Middlesex County Courthouse and Yankee Stadium. Jack Harper reports from Cambridge recounting Day 1 in the murder trial of the RemDawg's 35-year-old son.
This story isn't going anywhere.
It won't "go away," nor should it, especially now that Martel's family has decided to speak publicly in an effort to raise awareness about domestic violence.
The Martels didn't matter much to Jared Remy. He forbade them from meeting his parents. Perhaps it was better that way, at least for the Martels. Their concerns were not likely paramount to the rest of Jared Remy's family, either.
Jerry Remy has publicly expressed concern, sympathy and sorrow for the Martel family's loss. The Martels made "mutiple" 12-hour drives between their home in Virginia and Massachusetts in the weeks following their daughter's murder, the Globe's story said. Trips that took a financial and mental toll. Remy's family also fought the Martels for custody of Arianna Nicole. She's the little girl whose mother is buried in Taunton and whose father could very well likely spend the rest of his life in prison for the murder of her mother.
That unnecessary custody battle, no doubt, added to the Martel's financial and emotional burden.
In a jailhouse interview published in the Boston Herald last fall, Jared Remy said his parents would win that custody battle because they had greater financial means.
Oh, and by the way, Remy said in the same interview he didn't kill Martel.
If Jared could only get out of jail and look for the real killers...
The custody battle ended with Martel's brother and his wife raising Arianna Nicole, and both sets of grandparents enjoying visitation rights.
Wifey is a family law attorney in Florida. She graduated from Suffolk Law school 25 years ago next month and is licensed to practice law in three states. [For the record, she holds the same record on state bar exams as Jon Lester does in the World Series: 3-0]. She deals with custody cases involving circumstances almost unimaginable. She has handled such cases where one of the parties involved is in jail facing serious felony charges. The accord reached by all sides in the Remy-Martel case, she believes, could and should have been resolved in about 10 minutes.
That would have been long before Arianna Nicole went into foster care and spent more than half a year bonding with another family.
A family she would eventually have leave.
As Sunday's piece noted:
Though [the Martels] understand why the Remys wanted guardianship of Arianna, they wished they had not pressed the case. The custody battle meant the girl spent seven months in state care and grew attached to her foster mother - bringing another kind of loss after the trauma of witnessing her mother get killed, Patty said.
A five-year-old girl loses two moms in less than a year.
Maybe this Wally doll will help?
Jennifer Martel's parents are from modest means. Neither one of them played in the major leagues, has ever called a Red Sox game on television or owns a restaurant outside Fenway Park. Jennifer Martel was the first member of her family to graduate from high school.
They have chosen to remain out of the spotlight until now because they believed speaking out would somehow threaten their standing in Arianna's custody case, Sunday's Globe story said. That's a shame. One has to wonder why they felt fear or trepidation in speaking out. Did they believe Jared Remy's line that his family's status and financial superiority in this relationship would somehow harm their chances of having a long-term relationship with their granddaughter? Given the multiple failures the criminal justice system in this case before Jennifer Martel's death, and Jerry Remy's public stature, one cannot blame them for having those concerns.
Perhaps they believed that somehow speaking out or being critical of the Remy family in any way would earn them the scourge of millions of members of Red Sox Nation, who apparently "all" stood behind Jerry Remy in his return to the booth.
Who needs 10 million pissed off Red Sox fans at your door when you're trying to comprehend and absorb the brutal death of your 27-year-old daughter, allegedly, at the hands of her juiced-up boyfriend?
Then there's the issue of Jared Remy's employment with the Red Sox.
Here is that timeline:
Security guard Jared Remy, while on official Red Sox business, gets pulled over for going 92 MPH on the Mass Pike in February of 2005 while driving with the 2004 World Series trophy to the Berkshires. He continues to work for the team.
Jared Remy spends 81 days in the Middlesex Jail in late 2005 and early 2006. He pleads guilty to beating up his then-girlfriend and returns to work with the Red Sox for the 2006 season after receiving probation.
Jared Remy meets Martel, who was "casually dating" another Fenway Park security guard, at a barbecue in 2007. Their courtship includes multiple trips to Fenway Park.
Jared Remy and another Red Sox employee are fired in 2008 after being caught in an MLB investigation into steroids.
Drew your own conclusions as to whether or not Remy and Martel would have met or stayed together had he not been working for the Red Sox. Or whether or not the team should fired him sooner. Jerry Remy has said he did nothing in terms of influencing the Red Sox to keep his son on the payroll.
It's always the steroids that get you. Actually, it isn't. Sometimes, the steroids save your life. I've been taking prescription steroids in various dosages since being diagnosed with autoimmune hepatitis in 2000. Even after a pair of liver transplants, I take my daily dose of roids to make sure any potential inflammation of my third liver remains abated. Fourteen years on steroids and I haven't killed anyone. Imagine that. If you look hard enough, you can always manufacture excuses for anyone's actions, whether their name is Jared Remy, Aaron Hernandez or Donald Sterling.
In Sunday's Globe piece, Brian Martel asked the question many who have followed this story have pondered for years: "Why would Jerry [Remy] have a son working as a security guard when he's got the opportunity to go to school and be whatever he wants?"
When asked about why the Red Sox never fired Remy following either the speeding in incident or his incarceration, Larry Lucchino, He Who Runs The Red Sox, told "D & C" on April 4 that he was not familiar with that part of Remy's past at the time and pretty much threw whoever was responsible for his Remy's continued employment under the Duck Boat.
"I do think that he was welcomed back - that never rose to my level, to my desk, so I can't speak about it. I do know when the steroid accusations occurred, we did get involved and a discharge occurred. That's a very hard question of when or whether people deserve second chances, and when it's right to do so and when it's wrong to do so"
Well, Jennifer Martel didn't deserve any of this.
Neither did her parents.
Even if they were "trailer trash."
[For more information on the Jennifer Martel Memorial Fund, visit its website here]
The OBF Blog is written by award-winning journalist, Bay State native and Boston.Com columnist Bill Speros. Got a news tip, want to let him know directly what you think, have a complaint or compliment about his "aggressively relevant" content or hate people who speak about themselves in the third person, hit him up on his Obnoxious Boston Fan Facebook page, on Twitter @realOBF or hit him on at his
Obnoxious Boston Fan Email Address . Thanks always for reading and pass the clicker.
More from this blog on: Red Sox