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The four styles of parenting

The authoritative parent
Affectionate and engaged
Sets limits and enforces consequences
Uses reason, logic, and appropriate negotiation
Empowers a child's decision making
His or her child is likely to be:
Happy, responsible, and kind
Good at problem-solving
Self-motivated and confident
Cooperative
An excellent student
A leader

The authoritarian parent
Emotionally aloof
Bossy; likely to say, "Because I said so"
Uses physical punishment or verbal insults
Dismisses a child's feelings.
His or her child is likely to be:
Moody and anxious
Well-behaved
An average to good student
A follower

The permissive parent
Affectionate
Anxious to please, ends every sentence by asking, "OK?"
Indulgent
Can't say no and stick to it
Easily manipulated
His or her child is likely to be:
Demanding and whiny
Easily frustrated
Lacking kindness and empathy
A poor to average student
A follower

The passive parent
Emotionally removed or indifferent
Uninvolved
Abdicates discipline
Inconsistent and unpredictable
His or her child is likely to be:
Clingy and needy
Inappropriate and rude
Likely to get into trouble
A poor student
A follower 

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