Tuesday, February 21, 2006

A Relationship Do Over

Lillyflower writes:

I met this guy through somebody that my sister knew. He had wanted to meet me for quite some time. We hit it off very well and unfortunantly advanced too quickly. He asked me out again and we went to dinner 2 nights later. When he stated that he was taking me out on a "date," I freaked out and said something utterly stupid. He dismissed it and we still had a wonderful time. I did not hear from him until 2 days later and and he seemed eager to see me again. We tried to make plans but they fell through. Days went by and I did not hear from him so I called him. We saw each other again and this time I opened my big mouth and perhaps said something to hurt his ego. Again, this did not seem to affect him THAT much because I ran into him while I was with a friend and he seemed concerned about who I was with. He said he would call me to make plans to go to dinner that night and never did. We did not speak all weekend. I called him the following week and we were supposed to see each other and he flaked on me again. I emailed him because he has a possesion of mine and he became offended and rather defensive in the email asking why I had not called him and he apologized that he did not call me. I responded that I needed my belongings and to please mail them to me and to call when he was not busy. No reply. I still need my things but the problem is that I still want him as well.

Dear Lillyflower:

I had to read your letter several times before I could really get a grip on just what's up with you and this guy; it's almost as if the two of you are doing everything possible to irritate each other and sabotage what has the makings of a relationship. The weird/funny part is it sounds like, for all the miscommunication, you guys are actually really into each other!! Here's what I would do: Forget the phone calls and emails. Go to him in person. Tell him that you think you guys got off on the wrong foot, and that you basically want to start over with him, but this time without all of the playing hard to get stuff, which has clearly backfired on the both of you and only works in Kate Hudson movies anyway. Hopefully he'll feel the same way, and you guys can make the most of a much needed second chance at being together.