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Monday, February 6, 2006

This Girl's Got It Too Good

Anna Cristina writes

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I've been living with a guy for over a year.
We're lovers, playmates, and most of all, great friends.
He takes care of me, listens to me, treats me well.
We have the same beliefs; we value the same things.
He claims not to be seeing other people. And me? Most certainly am not.

But he's never said the L word. (So why should I?)
He keeps in touch with the ex. (So I do, too.)
And when people ask, his canned reply is: "I'm single... (in other words -- available). (Screw that, so am I!)

So I guess I'm not his girlfriend.

What am I doing hanging around this fool?

Thoughts?

Dear Anna Cristina:

If ever there were an example of actions speaking louder than words, the relationship you have with your boyfriend is it. This guy with whom you've been living for over a year, the guy you call a fool, is your: lover, confidante and great friend. Further, by your own admission, he takes care of you, treats you well and shares with you the same belief and value systems. Yeah, he may still be in contact with his ex from time to time, and he may not actually come right out and say he loves you--which puts him in league with, oh, I don't know, a million other guys, perhaps--but, all in all, I think your extremely harsh attitude towards him is both unfair and unwarranted. Better be careful, Anna Cristina, there are a lot of women out there with truly horrible boyfriends who would gladly trade places with you in a New York minute.

Do you agree with my advice to Anna Cristina? Please go to my message board and let me know what you think.

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