Friday, February 10, 2006

Did He Really Want To Breakup?

Valarie writes:

My boyfriend finished our relationship last week because he is scared of commitment. We still see each of every day because we work together. I told him that I thought it was the right thing to do and that we should still be friends. He seemed really happy with that. Then over the last couple of days he has looked miserable and today he won't talk to me! What is going on?

Dear Valarie:

Unless you're leaving out some pertinent information, like perhaps you've been badmouthing him to your co-workers over the breakup--which would certainly be one reason for his not talking to you--the only other explanations I can come up with are a.) he's disappointed that you're taking the end of the the relationship so matter-of-factly or b.) he is having second thoughts about the breakup but doesn't quite know how to tell you this. Let a few more days go by to see if he finally opens up to you about why he's been acting so standoffish. If, after a few days, he still hasn't approached you, and you really want to know what's up with him, there is nothing preventing you from trying to be the one to initiate a conversation.