Monday, February 27, 2006

Near-Term Wedding Plans?

Vaughn writes:

I am in love with a man that I have been dating for about a year now. We both love each other, and I know that he is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with; how do I know if he feels the same. Should I ask if he plans to marry me?

Dear Vaughn:

Absolutely. Further, as long as you're not desiring an imminent wedding, which I don't think is the case here, you can do so without putting too much pressure on him by phrasing it exactly as you did in your letter, "...plans to marry me?" (By emphasizing "plans," with it's in the near future but not immediate connotation, you can gauge his commitment level to you without having your marriage query come across as an ultimatum.)