Monday, February 6, 2006

She's Far From Satisfied

Unsatisfied writes:

My boyfriend doesn't seem to be into me sexually. We spend a lot of quality time together in all respects except when its in the bedroom. While I'm no Pamela Anderson, I never had a problem getting a boyfriend, and I usually get hit on by guys when I go out to clubs. I like this guy, but I need to feel like a woman, too, if you know what I mean. Help!

Dear Unsatisfied:

Stop the presses!! We have a report of a guy who seemingly isn't preoccupied with sex!! Okay, all kidding aside, there are a couple of possibilities here. Either he really isn't a sexually revved-up guy or he is but it's going to take same work on your part to bring out that side of his personality. The next time you're alone with him create as intimate an atmosphere as you can. Let him know what it is that you want. His rising to the occasion or not will in either case give you an opportunity to raise this as an issue with him once and for all. Keep in mind, not all guys view themselves as studs or great lovers. Accordingly, be prepared to meet him halfway if he should make it clear to you that the reason he hasn't been all that he could be in the intimacy department is that he is either inexperienced or lacks confidence when it comes to his lovemaking abilities (in other words, be kind; if you are, you just might experience that elusive "satisfaction" you've been looking for.)