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« She's Far From Satisfied | Main | Stop Worrying, You Did Just Fine » Monday, February 6, 2006Will He Still Be There For Her?Looking For Answers writes: I would love to get your opinion on this subject: My ex and I have been separated now for about a month. During this time, I have been working on my problems with drinking and I’m very surprised at the fact that I have managed to stay away from alcohol for the entire time without any discomfort or cravings, thank goodness! I'm also trying to find my birth mother whom I have never met and deal with my best friend, who is dying of cancer. Suffice it to say, I have a great deal on my plate. My ex felt that I should be alone in order to work thru these issues. While I may not have agreed in the beginning, I am finding it easier to concentrate on myself and the issues at hand without having to worry about his feelings, etc... I LOVE him with all my heart and I know that I could never think about a reunion with him until all of my issues are resolved. My fear, however, is that this will never happen. And then what? Is his love strong enough for me to keep waiting for me while I put our relationship on hold? I love him, he says he loves me and realizes what a strain all of this on us...we love each other, but in a case like this, is love enough? Dear Looking For Answers: You certainly are facing some tough issues in your life right now, and it was probably a wise and good thing for the relationship to be put on hold while your work through them. And, though you boyfriend is presently on the sidelines, this doesn’t mean you should go without any outside emotional support. On the contrary, I think you would benefit greatly from seeking professional counseling from a therapist, particularly for your drinking (especially since it is quite common for people to turn to alcohol when under significant emotional stress as you undoubtedly are at present). As to your question about “Love being enough.”: I wish I could give you a definitive answer, but I can’t. All I can tell you is, only time will tell. And, while I certainly hope that your boyfriend will be there waiting for you once you’ve resolved all of these issues, he may very well not be. Whether he is or isn’t, however, the good news is that you’ll be such a stronger person for all that you’ve overcome, you’ll be able deal with it either way. Posted by Movable Type Administrator at 03:16 PM
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