Gisele Bündchen is not a fan of the term “stepmom.”
The supermodel, who recently celebrated 11 years of marriage with Patriots quarterback Tom Brady, did a live Q&A on Instagram on Thursday, answering questions about where she and Brady would be living next year, the couple’s secret to raising happy kids while leading busy lives, and why she doesn’t consider herself a “stepmom.”
Bündchen, who is the mother of Ben and Vivian and the stepmother of Jack — the son of Brady and actress Bridget Moynahan — said she prefers the term “bonus mom.”
“I don’t like the word stepmom,” Bündchen said. “I use the word ‘bonus mom’ because I feel like it’s a blessing in my life. I feel so lucky that I got to have an extra wonderful little angel in my life.”
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I can’t believe it’s been 11 years since we devoured this delicious cake after we came home from our wedding. Happy anniversary love of my lifey!!! Thank you for making life so sweet! Te amo ❤️❤️❤️ Não acredito que já faz 11 anos desde que devoramos esse bolo delicioso quando chegamos do nosso casamento. Feliz aniversário amor da minha vida !!! Obrigada por tornar a vida tão doce! Te amo!
When asked how to keep the love alive in a long-term relationship, Bündchen said communication was key.
“What I try to do is to keep the communication current and clear and loving,” Bündchen said. “I think sometimes we talk about things that happened last year or last month and we can keep holding resentment. And I think that doesn’t serve any good. So I think it’s important in a relationship to accept what is. We all make mistakes.”
With her kids playing in the background, Bündchen was asked by a fan how she and Brady manage “family time” with such busy schedules.
“I think we just try our best to be present with the kids when we are with the kids, and be fully there with them, really listening to them,” Bündchen said. “It’s not so much the amount of time, I think, as the quality of time.”
Bündchen also added that she and Brady try to surround their kids with positive energy by never raising their voices or arguing with each other.
“I think what’s really important as well is the energy that is around the children,” Bündchen said. “We’re constantly giving them kisses and hugs, and I think they really see how much we love each other and support each other. We never raise our voices. We never have arguments. We talk things over if we have any issues, and I think it’s really important for the energy of the house to be loving and safe.”