A.For those who don’t know, Ep. 8 of the podcast includes an interview with my high school boyfriend, who is an excellent friend. We talk about how our friendship has grown and changed over the years. We also talk about “The Simpsons” a little.
The point of that episode, I think, is that it took a long time for us to find our version of a normal friendship after we broke up when we went to college. I mean, this was a long time ago, so I don’t remember everything, but I know there was some crying and confusion in the beginning. In the episode, he talks about how he really needed space from me – like, the no-talking kind of space – before he could be a real friend. And maybe that’s what you need, too. This kind of thing takes more than a few months to figure out. You don’t have to cut him off, but you can minimize him, for sure.
I’d advise you not to assume that distance is the only thing between you and your ex. You have no idea how the relationship would have played out if he had stayed. Don’t think too much about fictional alternative paths. There’s only the one.
Also know that some of these tears are about missing a companion and adjusting to change. The sadness doesn’t always mean you want him back. And for the record, you are very capable of falling for someone else. It’s remarkable how quickly feelings can change.
– Meredith
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