I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for a of couple months, but it’s not something I was enthusiastic about starting. We were friends, and he was going through a lot. He suddenly caught feelings for me and wanted a relationship, but I refused at first. That made his mental health worse, so I decided to date him. I hoped my feelings would grow.

Three months into the relationship, I realized that not only does this guy suffer from depression, he also has some pretty toxic traits. He’s manipulative, obsessive, and has anger issues, and I always felt trapped and drained with him. I wanted to leave, but when I got the chance, I ended up feeling sorry for him.

Finally, back in August, I managed to break up with him. But because he’s so alone, I decided we should remain friends. He agreed but often would send me texts saying he wants me back in his life, and explain that he’s changed. I do see a few signs that he’s changed, but I can’t go back to him because I really don’t love him and I don’t think I can grow to love him either. I have told him that maybe later at some point we can try again. He says he understands and that it’s OK, but I know deep down he doesn’t want to wait. He has brought up how he needs me back, and tries to manipulate me into his life again, implying he’ll have a breakdown and hurt himself. I absolutely want nothing to do with this guy, but I can’t stop myself from feeling sorry for him. I really want to know how I get out of this mess that I feel so trapped in.

– Trapped