My ex contacted me a year after our breakup. She (28) broke up with me last year after a 10-year relationship. She started developing feelings for her male best best friend. I (a 27-year-old man) worked on myself during that period and am healed, have healthy friendships, have explored my hobbies, and love making myself and people around me happy. I feel healthy.

She reached out this week to say sorry over email. She eventually said her best friend no longer talks to her. She admitted that she spread negative information about me post breakup. Because I have healed so much and wanted to cheer her up, I replied by emailing her the good things I experienced in our relationship.

The next day she called up crying. She asked to be friends. Later backtracks. The following day I proposed a genuine friendship. She declined but said she will help me with my career or any other way she can. I followed up by asking her a neutral government-related question – about something she has gone through that I have to do it now. She hasn’t helped yet.

Three days later, she called me crying, saying she wants me back. I got off the phone in about five seconds. But 30 minutes later, I call back to get to a better place with her – to make her feel better – but my number was blocked.

This woman, in the final months of our breakup, told me that she doesn’t respect me. She compared me to her best friend. She abandoned me cruelly. I was frustrated with our sex life too. What is the best thing I can do in this situation for me? I am emotionally stable and want to be in a position to give and help others. She is pinging me, being insincere, and it eats up more of my time.

– Backtracking