A little over two years ago, I met a guy online. We have never met in person but have shared a connection via video chat and texting. I really like him, but distance is the issue; we live in different cities about 700km apart. 

During the two years, we’ve had periods of not contacting each other because I’ll tell him I can’t do casual with no expectations. We both dated other people the last time we stopped talking. He left me alone for a bit, but he always comes back. 

This last time we started talking again it felt like we were finally going to meet. We talked more about our connection and how much we liked each other. He works in a field that has him away from home for weeks at a time. During the last four-week stint he was working, we weren’t talking as much, which sent me into a doubt spiral. I messaged him to ask what is going on, and he’d reply with “I’m busy, I’m tired, I’m stressed,” to which I replied with, “I wouldn’t know because you never talk to me. But I was hoping I could be a source of comfort during your time at work.” 

I was upset by his initial responses and blocked him on WhatsApp, as this was our main form of contact. I was mad. But I didn’t block him on my cell line. And he contacted me there extremely angry that I had blocked him. He told me goodbye and that he doesn’t need drama in his life right now. Then I unblocked him because I felt bad about my rash decision. He was only blocked for two hours or so. 

I know that it is childish, but I was feeling overwhelmed by our whole situation, and was thinking it needed to be done because I’m not getting what I’m looking for in a relationship. Now he has blocked me. And I feel out of control and sad that he officially no longer wants to be in my life. 

Just for context on the blocking, he has blocked me in the past for about nine months when he started dating someone new. But when they broke up he unblocked me and contacted me again. I like the the connection we have when we are talking to each other, but when we are not connecting, I hate it. 

Is this toxic? I feel terrible that I blocked him and caused this whole situation. And I’m sad to say we are both in our 40s, and this seems like childish behavior.

– Blocked