You allude to your faith in this letter. Maybe it’s not a big part of your life, but if it is, a faith-based community might be a good place to meet someone who shares your values. Are you part of a local place of worship? Do you engage with the people there? Think about whether that might be a good place to spend more time.

I don’t bring up matchmakers much in Love Letters; the service can be expensive, and I never want to assume people are wiling to spend money when there are so many free apps. But in your case, I wonder if it’s worth meeting with one or two to see what they might offer. You seem to want a more formal courtship – to be approached. A matchmaker coordinates who does what with an initial date or courtship. You might like that process. Also, some of the men who sign up for the service are probably pretty serious about wanting to meet someone.

I can’t speak to the caliber of men you’re meeting, but before we start throwing around that word (“caliber”), I’d just say that yeah, some men might not perform certain kinds of chivalry, but they might be great people. Remember that even though you want to be approached, there’s an entire app designed for straight women to make the first move – to give them more control.

If you don’t want it that way, that’s fine, but the men you meet might be used to that style of dating. It doesn’t mean they’re not wonderful humans and great company.

– Meredith

Readers? Thoughts on meeting someone? What about the best friend?