I wrote to you sometime ago and you published my letter and I got some great feedback … so I thought, let’s try again.

I’ve been divorced almost two years and have been on most of the major dating sites. I think, for me, the 80/20 rule applies and I express an interest in maybe 20 percent of the women I see and read profiles of (yes, I do read profiles). On the sites where I’ve paid to see who looks at my profile/get messages, I would say 20 percent of the women I message (I write well and I think ask good questions) check out my profile, and I hear from less than 1 percent of them. Is that normal?

I’ve had two friends help me rewrite my profile, and recently had a friend who’s an amateur photographer take a bunch of pictures (I used one as my Facebook profile and it got more likes than any other post), but nothing seemed to improve my “engagement” from the ladies on the sites.

My profiles (all of them) share my interests – that I’m a proud dad, gainfully employed, etc. My pictures (pre and post my friends’ help) avoided all the don’ts (no pics of me and fish, no topless shots in the bathroom).

While I wouldn’t describe myself as easy on the eyes, I also don’t think I’m particularly hard on them either, and I think I look a little younger than my age (56, hair is still there and only a bit grey).

As for unsolicited communications from women, I don’t get many. It’s almost as if something in my profile or pics has the equivalent of spinach in its teeth.

A fellow divorced male once told me he read an unsupported claim that on Tinder (I’m not on that one), 20 percent of the males have the attention of 80 percent of the women. If this was true across all dating platforms, it might explain my less than desired connectivity (or less than desired desired rate, if you will).

Thoughts?

– The Return of Mr. Ampersand …