Hi Meredith,

I met a man online 10 months ago. We met in person and I fell for him quickly. We ended up going on 10 dates in two weeks, but then I found out he was in an open relationship and had a girlfriend (it was public information on another dating app, yet he had never told me). I was shocked and upset and immediately told him I didn’t want to see him anymore. However, he wanted to stay friends, and I agreed. I wasn’t too emotionally attached at that point (we hadn’t slept together), and I’d really enjoyed his company. He also said he didn’t want to lose me from his life.

We ended up hanging out all of the time again, about four to five times a week, and grew closer. Fast forward a month and he ended his open relationship. We started making out and spending the night at each other’s places every week. Still no sex. I started growing more and more attached and we ended up sleeping together. It was amazing and I thought (stupidly) that perhaps we would get into a normal relationship after a few months of us basically acting like a couple in every way. I was, of course, wrong. He wasn’t looking for a relationship and we started arguing about the fact that he was going on dates and sleeping with other women.

I was super jealous and upset. He became defensive and distant. He told me he just wanted “fun.” I was heartbroken and rejected. We had a talk recently and decided that things needed to change in our weird “friendship,” and that we both want to remain friends. I love this guy and don’t want to lose him from my life, but don’t know what to do. It hurts so much to know that he cycles through so many different women. I really want to remain friends and see if I can let the hurt and pain go, but I don’t know if it is possible? What do you think?

– No fun