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I have been talking to this guy for about two months and we talk literally everyday via text, Skype, and Snapchat. He’s funny, we have a lot in common, and we both find each other attractive. So what’s the catch? Well, there are three. We’ve never met, we met on Tinder, and we live in different states. We are planning on meeting soon when I am back in town visiting family, but I’m afraid that one of two things will happen: 1. We will meet and the “magic” will be gone. 2. We meet and have an instant connection and have strong feelings for each other.
Which one am I more afraid of happening? Two, obviously. Because falling for someone is scary and I think it would be easier to ignore the feelings or hopefully have them disappear. I know I am jumping the gun, but what should I do? Should we have the “what if” conversation or am I just being worried for nothing?
– The Worried Hopeful Romantic
Just see the guy. You’ve psyched yourself up and out, and now it’s time to put an end to all of the guessing.
There’s no need for a “what if” conversation, because there’s very little to say until you know how it feels to be with each other in person. Just prepare yourself, because there are more than two options for how this plays out. You could discover that while the talking is magical, the physical connection isn’t. Or maybe you’ll like each other enough to want a second date, and the relationship begins to move at an in-real-life, long-distance pace. It’s also possible that you’ll want to have crazy sex and then continue the texting. The point is, who knows?
Falling in love with someone is scary, but what you’re really fearing is reality. I understand why, but after two months of dreaming, it’s exactly what you need.
Readers? Anything she should know before she meets this guy?
I’ll never understand why people use online dating and then pick people in different states. That’s a pen pal. That’s not dating.bklynmom
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